Of course, what is needed may differ greatly from one person to another. Sandra, mentioned earlier, says: “I had what I needed in my distress​—very dear and loving friends who flocked around me.” Elaine, mentioned earlier, on the other hand, needed time to herself.

Elaine states: “For a long time after David’s death, I had a physical pain, like a knife turning in my rib cage. I thought it was indigestion. One day it became so bad that I thought I would have to see a doctor. A discerning spiritual sister and friend suggested that my grief might be a factor and encouraged me to ask Jehovah for help and comfort. I took her advice right there and then and offered a silent but heartfelt prayer, asking that Jehovah sustain me in my grief. And he did!” Elaine began to feel better, and soon thereafter even her physical pain went away.