ONTOPOLWA 13
Shoka tashi vulu okuningwa po uuna ondjokana yi li pokuteka
1, 2. Ngele mondjokana yeni omu na uupyakadhi, epulo lini mu na okwiipula?
MOMUMVO 1988 omukulukadhi gumwe gwokuItalia gwedhina Lucia okwa li a polimana noonkondo.a Ondjokana yawo oya li ya teka konima yokuhokana oomvula omulongo. Okwa li a kambadhala lwiikando oyindji opo ye nomusamane gwe ya kale hayu uvathana, ihe ine shi pondola. Onkee ano oya li ya topoka molwaashoka kaya li taya vulu okulongela kumwe, nokonima yaashoka Lucia okwa li e na okuputudha oyanakadhona yaali oye awike. Okutala kethimbo lya pita, Lucia ota ti: “Onda li ndi na uushili kutya kapu na sha tashi vulu oku tu kwathela tu kaleke po ondjokana yetu.”
2 Ngele mondjokana yeni omu na uupyakadhi, otashi vulika wu uvite ngaashi Lucia. Otashi vulika to ipula ngele otayi ka tsikila ngaa. Ngele osho shi li ngawo, oshi li nawa wi ipule to ti: Mbela ohandi tula ngaa miilonga omayele omawanawa agehe ngoka taga adhika mOohapu dhaKalunga, Ombiimbeli, ngoka taga kwathele ondjokana yi kale yi na omupondo?—Episalomi 119:105.
3. Nonando omaihengo oge li apuhe, omakonakono ogu ulika shike kombinga yaantu oyendji mboka yi ihenga nosho wo omaukwanegumbo gawo?
3 Ngele pokati kaaihokani ohapu holoka olundji okwaauvathana kwa kwata miiti, otashi vulika ya dhiladhile kutya oshi li hwepo ya topoke. Ihe nonando miilongo oyindji omaukwanegumbo ga topoka otagi indjipala noonkondo, omakonakono ngoka opo ga ningwa otagu ulike kutya aaihokani oyendji mboka yi ihenga otayi ipe uusama sho ya ninga etokolo ndyoka. Oyendji yomuyo ye vulithe pwaamboka ya dhiginina oondjokana dhawo kaye na uukolele palutu nopamadhiladhilo. Olundji aanona mboka ye na aavali yi ihenga ohaya kala uule woomvula odhindji ya ngwangwana nokaaye uvite ombili. Aavali nookuume komaukwanegumbo ngoka ga teka po nayo ohaya gumwa konkalo ndjoka. Mbela Kalunga ngoka e li Omutotipo gwondjokana ohe shi tala ko ngiini?
4. Omaupyakadhi oge na okukandulwa po ngiini mondjokana?
4 Ngaashi sha tumbulwa moontopolwa dha tetekele, Kalunga oku uvaneka kutya ondjokana oyi na okukalelela. (Genesis 2:24) Omolwashike ano oondjokana odhindji tadhi ende tadhi teka? Ihadhi teka owala muusiku wumwe, ihe ohadhi endele ko. Olundji ohapu kala omandhindhiliko tagu ulike kutya ondjokana oya nika okuteka. Omaupyakadhi omashona mondjokana otaga vulu okweenda taga nenepala sigo taga kala ga fa itaaga vulu okukandulwa po. Ihe ngele aaihokani oye ga kandula po nziya nekwatho lyOmbiimbeli, nena oondjokana odhindji itadhi ka teka.
KALENI MU NA ETALOKO LI LI PANDJELE
5. Aaihokani mondjokana kehe oye na okudhimbulukwa shike?
5 Oshinima shoka omathimbo gamwe hashi etitha uupyakadhi mondjokana, osho okukala wa tegelela oshindji kukuume koye kopandjokana. Omambo giihole, iifo mbyoka yi holike apuhe noopolohalama dhoko-TV nookino ohadhi pe aantu omategameno ngoka kaage shi goshili. Ngele omategameno ngoka oga kala inaaga gwanithwa, ohaya kala yu uvite ya kengelelwa, inaaya gwanenwa nohaya kala nokuli ya geya. Ihe ongiini aaihokani taya vulu okunyanyukilwa ondjokana yawo nonando inaya gwanenena? Otashi pula oonkambadhala dha kwata miiti opo ye shi pondole.
6. (a) Ombiimbeli otayi popi shike shoka tashi tu kwathele tu kale netaloko li li pandjele kombinga yondjokana? (b) Iinima yimwe oyini hayi vulu okweetitha okwaauvathana mondjokana?
6 Ombiimbeli oyo embo li na oshilonga. Otayi popi kutya ondjokana oyo oshinima shinyanyudha, ihe otayi londodha wo kutya mboka taya hokana otaya ka mona ‘uudhigu monkalamwenyo.’ (1 Aakorinto 7:28) Ngaashi sha tumbulwa nale, aaihokani oye li aantu inaaya gwanenena nohaya ningi omapuko. Kehe gumwe gwomuyo oha dhiladhila shi ili nosho wo omaiyuvo ge ogi ili nokwa putudhwa momukalo gwi ili. Omathimbo gamwe aaihokani ohaya kala kaaye uvitathane omolwiimaliwa, aanona nosho wo aapambele yawo. Otashi vulu wo okweeta okwaauvathana ngele aaihokani kaye na ethimbo lya gwana okuninga iinima pamwe nongele oye na uupyakadhi wopamilalo.b Ohashi pula ethimbo okukandula po omaupyakadhi ngoka, ihe inamu teka omukumo. Aaihokani oyendji mboka haya kala ye na omaupyakadhi ga fa ngoka oye shi pondola oku ga kandula po.
KALENI HAMU KUNDATHANA UUNA KAAMU UVITATHANE
7, 8. Ngele aaihokani oya ningathana nenge kaaye uvitathane, omayele geni gopamanyolo taga vulu oku ya kwathela ya kandule po uupyakadhi mboka?
7 Aaihokani oyendji ohaya mono oshidhigu okukundathana ya gundjila uuna ya ningathana, kaaye uvitathane nenge ngele gumwe gwomuyo a ninga epuko. Pehala lyokupopya a ngungumana ta ti: “Ondi wete ku uvite ko naanaa kutya onda hala okutya shike,” kuume kopandjokana gumwe otashi vulika u uve nayi e te shi nenepeke. Oyendji oye hole okutya: “Ku na ko nasha nangame,” nenge “Ku hole ndje.” Shono otashi vulu okuningitha kuume kopandjokana gumwe kaa yamukule molwaashoka ina hala oontamanana.
8 Pehala lyaashono, oshi li nawa okupulakena komayele gOmbiimbeli ngoka taga ti: “Ngele tamu geye, inamu etha ondjahi yeni yi mú fale sigo omokuyona; inamu kala mwa geya esiku alihe.” (Aaefeso 4:26) Aaihokani yamwe mboka ya kala nombili mondjokana uule woomvula 60, oya li ya pulwa kutya oshike she ya kwathela opo ye shi pondole. Omusamane okwa ti: “Otwe shi ninga elalakano lyetu okukandula po okwaauvathana pokati ketu manga inaatu ka lala, nando onaku kale okushona ku thike peni.”
9. (a) Omanyolo otagu ulike kutya osha simana noonkondo okukala niikala yini uuna tamu kundathana? (b) Olundji aaihokani oya pumbwa okuninga shike, nokuli nonando otashi pula uulaadhi neifupipiko?
9 Uuna aaihokani kaaye uvitathane, kehe gumwe gwomuyo okwa pumbwa ‘okukala ha pulakene mbala, ihe ohi ikwata mokupopya ye iha geye mbala.’ (Jakob 1:19) Konima yokupulakenathana nengungumano, kehe gumwe gwomuyo otashi vulika a mone kutya osha pumbiwa okupa mukwawo ombili. (Jakob 5:16) Otashi pula eifupipiko nuulaadhi okupopya tashi zi komutima to ti: “Ombili sho nde ku uvitha nayi.” Okukandula po okwaauvathana momukalo ngoka itaku kwathele owala aaihokani ya kale haya kandula po omaupyakadhi gawo, ihe otaku ya kwathele wo ya kale nekwatathano lyopothingo shoka tashi ke ya ningitha ya kale pamwe nombili.
IGWANITHILII PO OOMPUMBWE DHOPAMILALO
10. Paulus okwa li a lombwele Aakriste yokuKorinto ya ninge shike shoka tashi vulu wo okugamena Aakriste yonena ngele nayo taye shi ningi?
10 Sho omuyapostoli Paulus a nyolele Aakorinto, okwa li e ya lombwele ya hokane ‘omolwuuhalu woluhondelo.’ (1 Aakorinto 7:2) Aantu kunena oya yonuka ngaashi yomuKorinto shonale, nenge nokuli ye vulithe po. Iinima iiwinayi mbyoka aantu yomuuyuni haya popi ya manguluka, omikalo dhawo dhokuzala dhaa shi kutalwa nomahokololo giihole ngoka haya lesha miifo nomomambo nohaya tala ko-TV nomookino otayi humitha komeho omahalo gokuya momilalo dha nyata. Molwaashoka Aakorinto oya li monkalo ya fa ndjoka, omuyapostoli Paulus okwa ti: “Okuya moondjokana okuhwepo ku vule okuhepekwa kehalo.”—1 Aakorinto 7:9.
11, 12. (a) Aaihokani oye na okwiigwanithila po shike noye na oku shi ninga momukalo guni? (b) Aaihokani oye na okuninga shike ngele mondjokana yawo omwa holoka onkalo ndjoka tayi yi imbi pakathimbo ya gwanithilathane po oompumbwe dhawo dhopamilalo?
11 Onkee ano, Ombiimbeli otayi lombwele Aakriste ya hokana tayi ti: “Omulumentu kehe na gwanithile omukiintu gwe oompumbwe dhe. Osho wo nomukiintu na gwanithile omulumentu gwe oompumbwe dhe.” (1 Aakorinto 7:3) Ndhindhilika kutya enyolo ndika otali tsu omuthindo okwiigwanithila po oompumbwe dhopamilalo. Aaihokani otaya vulu oku dhi igwanithila po ngele kehe gumwe oku na ko nasha nuuwanawa wamukwawo. Pashiholelwa, Ombiimbeli otayi lombwele aasamane yu ungaunge naakulukadhi yawo ‘noondunge.’ (1 Petrus 3:7, OB-1954) Shika osho shi li ngaaka unene tuu shi na ko nasha nokwiigwanithila po oompumbwe dhopamilalo mondjokana. Ngele omusamane ihu ungaunga nohole nomukulukadhi gwe, otashi vulika shi kale oshidhigu kuye okunyanyukilwa omilalo.
12 Opu na omathimbo gamwe aaihokani ihaaya vulu okwiigwanithila po oompumbwe dhawo dhopamilalo. Shika ohashi ningwa uuna omukulukadhi e li komathimbo nenge uuna a vulwa noonkondo. (Yelekanitha Levitikus 18:19.) Komusamane otashi vulika shi ningwe uuna tu ungaunga nuupyakadhi wa kwata miiti kiilonga noku uvite a gwilililwa po komaiyuvo. Oshi li nawa aaihokani ya kundathane oompito ndhoka hadhi holoka po pokathimbo okwiidhilika omilalo uuna ‘ye shi uvathana.’ (1 Aakorinto 7:5) Shoka otashi ka kwathela kehe gumwe gwomuyo kaa thike pehulithodhiladhilo lya puka. Ihe ngele omukulukadhi iha kala a hala okuya pamwe nomusamane gwe momilalo te shi ningile owina nenge ngele omusamane iha gwanithile po nohole omukulukadhi gwe oompumbwe dhopamilalo, gumwe gwomuyo otashi vulika a kwatwe kemakelo. Shoka otashi vulu okweetitha uupyakadhi mondjokana.
13. Oshike Aakriste taya vulu okuninga opo ya kaleke omadhiladhilo gawo ga yela?
13 Ngaashi Aakriste ayehe, aapiya yaKalunga ya hokana nayo oye na okuyanda okutala omathano giipala ngoka taga pendutha omahalo ga nyata nokaage shi gopaunshitwe. (Aakolossa 3:5) Oye na wo okukotokela omadhiladhilo niilonga yawo ngele tayu ungaunga niilyo ayihe yuukashike kookantu wi ili. Jesus okwe ya londodha a ti: “Okehe tuu ngoka ta tala omukiintu e mu haluka, oye okwe mu hondele momwenyo gwe.” (Mateus 5:28) Ngele aaihokani taya tula miilonga omayele gOmbiimbeli ngoka taga popi kombinga yomilalo, itaya ka ya memakelo ya hondele. Otashi ke ya kwathela ya tsikile okunyanyukilwa ekwatathano lyawo lyopandjokana moka omilalo hadhi talika ko dhi li omagano omawanawa ga za kOmudhikipo gwondjokana, Jehova.—Omayeletumbulo 5:15-19.
ETOMPELO PAMANYOLO LYOKWIIHENGA
14. Onkalo yini yiyemateka omathimbo gamwe hayi holoka po, nomolwashike?
14 Lago enene, uupyakadhi kehe hawu holoka moondjokana dhopaKriste ohawu vulu okukandulwa po. Ihe omathimbo gamwe shika ihashi wapa. Molwaashoka inatu gwanenena notu li muuyuni wa kolokosha tawu pangelwa kuSatana, oondjokana dhimwe ohadhi teka. (1 Johannes 5:19) Aakriste oye na okuungaunga ngiini nonkalo ondhigu ya tya ngaaka?
15. (a) Omolwetompelo owala lyopamanyolo lini aaihokani taya vulu okwiihenga e taya hokana nagulwe? (b) Omolwashike aaihokani yamwe ya tokola okwaahenga po ookuume kawo kopandjokana mboka ya hondela?
15 Ngaashi sha tumbulwa montopolwa onti-2 yembo ndika, oluhondelo olwo owala etompelo lyopamanyolo aaihokani taya vulu okwiihenga e taya kala ya manguluka okuhokana nagulwe.c (Mateus 19:9) Ngele owu na lela uushili kutya kuume koye kopandjokana okwa hondela, nena owa taalela etokolo lya kwata miiti. Mbela oto ka tsikila okukala naye nenge otamu ka hengathana? Shika oshi li etokolo lyomuntu mwene. Aakriste yamwe oya dhimina po thiluthilu ookuume kawo kopandjokana mboka yi iyela lela ombedhi, nondjokana yawo oya kala tayi ende nawa. Yalwe oya tokola kaayi ihenge omolwaanona.
16. (a) Iinima yimwe yini yi inyengitha aaihokani yamwe ya henge po ookuume kawo kopandjokana mboka ya ya moluhondelo? (b) Ngele kuume kopandjokana ngoka kee na ondjo ta ningi etokolo okwiihenga nenge okwaaihenga, omolwashike kaapu na ngoka e na okupa uusama etokolo lye?
16 Ihe nonando ongaaka, ngoka a hondela otashi vulika a ninga etegelelo nenge a kwatwa komukithi gwopamilalo. Nenge tashi vulika aanona ya pumbwa okugamenwa opo kaaya hepekwe komuvali ngoka he ya hepeke pamilalo. Osha yela kutya omuntu owa pumbwa okudhiladhila nawa manga inoo ninga etokolo. Ihe ngele owu shi kutya kuume koye kopandjokana okwa ya moluhondelo e to tsikile okukala ho yi pamwe naye momilalo, nena otashi ulike kutya owe mu dhimina po nowu na ehalo okutsikila nondjokana yeni. Ano mwaashono etompelo lyopamanyolo lyokwiihenga nokuhokana nagulwe itali longo we. Ngele owu na etompelo lyopamanyolo lyoku shi ninga, kapu na ngoka e na uuthemba oku ku thininika kutya ninga ngeyi nangino nenge oku ku pa uusama kutya etokolo ndyoka wa ninga olya puka. Ongoye to ka adhika kiilanduliko yetokolo lyoye. “Kehe gumwe oku na okuhumbata ye mwene omutenge gwe.”—Aagalati 6:5.
OMATOMPELO GOKUTOPOKA
17. Omanyolo otagi indike aaihokani mboka ya topoka nenge yi ihenga kaaya ninge shike ngele kapu na gumwe a ya moluhondelo?
17 Mbela opu na oonkalo dhimwe moka aaihokani ya pumbwa okutopoka nenge okwiihenga nokuli nonando kapu na gumwe a ya moluhondelo? Eeno, ihe moonkalo ndhoka Omukriste ita vulu okuhokana omuntu gumwe i ili. (Mateus 5:32) Nonando Ombiimbeli otayi popile okutopoka kwa tya ngaaka, otayi popi kutya ngoka a za pumukwawo oku na “okukala itaa yi we moondjokana nenge a hangane ishewe nomulume.” (1 Aakorinto 7:11) Oonkalo dhimwe dha kwata miiti dhini tadhi vulu okuningitha aaihokani ya topoke?
18, 19. Oonkalo dhimwe dha kwata miiti odhini tadhi vulu okuningitha gumwe gwomaaihokani a tokole okuza po pumukwawo nenge a hengane, nokuli nando ke na we okuhokana nagulwe?
18 Uukwanegumbo otawu vulu okukala wa hepa ngele omusamane oku na onyalo yitilitha nohi ihumbata nayi.d Tashi vulika ha ndombela po iimaliwa yuukwanegumbo nenge he yi longitha okulanda iingangamithi niikolitha. Ombiimbeli otayi ti: ‘Ngele ope na omuntu ngoka itaa sile aanegumbo lye oshimpwiyu, oye okwi idhimbike eitaalo nomwiinayi e vulike komupagani.’ (1 Timoteus 5:8) Ngele omulumentu a tya ngaaka ina hala okulundulula omikalo dhe notashi vulika nokuli ha longitha po iimaliwa yomukulukadhi gwe, omukulukadhi ota vulu okutokola okugamena onkalonawa ye noyaanona mokutopoka naye.
19 Aaihokani otaya vulu wo okutopoka ngele gumwe oha hepeke nayi mukwawo, tashi vulika he mu dhenge aluhe, nanakuhepekwa ngono oku wete kutya uukolele we nomwenyo gwe oyi li moshiponga. Niishewe, ngele gumwe oha kambadhala aluhe okuthininika mukwawo a yone iipango yaKalunga momukalo gwontumba nogwongandi, nena ngoka ta thininikwa otashi vulika wo a tokole okutopoka naye, unene tuu ngele oku wete kutya uupambepo we owu li moshiponga noonkondo. Kuume ngoka e li moshiponga ota vulu okuthika pehulithodhiladhilo kutya omukalo aguke ngoka ta vulu okuulika kutya ‘oha vulika kuKalunga, ihe hakaantu’ ogwo okutopoka naye.—Iilonga 5:29.
20. (a) Ngele aaihokani ya topoka, ookuume ya pyokoka pambepo naakuluntugongalo oshike taya vulu okuninga, noshike kaaye na okuninga? (b) Aaihokani kaye na okulongitha omanyolo gOmbiimbeli ongeipopilo ya ninge shike?
20 Ngele kuume kopandjokana oha hepeke mukwawo nayi, kapu na ngoka e na oku mu thininika kutya na topoke naye nenge na kale pamwe naye. Nonando ookuume ke ya pyokoka pambepo naakuluntugongalo otashi vulika ye mu ambidhidhe noye mu pe omayele ga kankamena kOmbiimbeli, itaya vulu okukala ye shi uuyelele auhe kombinga yuupyakadhi mboka wu li pokati kaaihokani. Jehova oye owala ta vulu oku wu tseya. Odhoshili kutya ngele omukiintu Omukriste ota kongo omatompelo gowala opo a vule okuhengana, nena ita simaneke elongekidho lyaKalunga lyondjokana. Ihe ngele onkalo ndjoka ya nika oshiponga noonkondo otayi tsikile, kapu na ngoka e na oku mu pa uusama ngele okwa tokola ya topoke. Sha faathana otashi vulu okupopiwa shi na ko nasha nomulumentu Omukriste ngoka a hala ya topoke nomukulukadhi gwe. “Tse aantu atuhe otatu ka thikama koshipala shaKalunga, tu pangulwe kuye.”—Aaroma 14:10.
NKENE ONDJOKANA NDJOKA YA LI YA TEKA YA KWATHELWA YI SHUNE KUMWE
21. Oshimoniwa shini tashi ulike kutya omayele gOmbiimbeli otaga vulu okuhwepopaleka oondjokana?
21 Konima yoomwedhi ndatu okuza sho Lucia ngoka a tumbulwa metetekelo a topoka nomusamane gwe, okwa li a tsakanene nOonzapo dhaJehova nodha li dha tameke okukonakona naye Ombiimbeli. Ota yelitha ta ti: “Onda li nda kumwa noonkondo sho Ombiimbeli ya pe ndje omayele taga longo opo ndi mone nkene uupyakadhi wetu wu na okukandulwa po. Konima owala yoku yi konakona uule woshiwike, oya li yi inyengitha ndje nziya ndi shune kumwe nomusamane gwandje. Kunena otandi vulu okupopya kutya Jehova oha kwathele aaihokani mboka ye li muupyakadhi ya shune kumwe molwaashoka omalongo ge ohage ya kwathele ya kale ya simanekathana. Kashi shi shoshili kutya Oonzapo dhaJehova ohadhi eta etopauko momaukwanegumbo, ngaashi yamwe haya ti. Pehala lyaashono, ohadhi ga kwathele ga shune kumwe, ngaashi nde shi mona moshinima shandje.” Lucia okwa li i ilonga okutula miilonga omakotampango gOmbiimbeli monkalamwenyo ye.
22. Aaihokani ayehe oye na okukala yi inekela shike?
22 Lucia haye awike a mona uuwanawa mboka. Ondjokana oyi na okukala elalekonuuyamba, ihe kayi na okukala omutenge. Ano Jehova okwe tu pa onzo yomayele ga dhenga mbanda ge na ko nasha nondjokana, Oohapu dhe, dhi li omagano ge na ongushu. Ombiimbeli otayi ‘gandja uunongo kwaamboka taye wu pumbwa.’ (Episalomi 19:7-11) Oya hupitha oondjokana odhindji ndhoka dha li pokuteka noya kwathela aaihokani oyendji ya pongolole po omaupyakadhi ga kwata miiti. Aaihokani, kaleni mwi inekela thiluthilu omayele ge na ko nasha nondjokana ngoka Jehova Kalunga te mu pe, molwaashoka otaga longo shili.
[Omanyolo gopevi]
a Edhina ndika halyo lye lyolela.
b Oontopolwa dha tetekele odha kundathana nale kombinga yomaupyakadhi gamwe ga tya ngaaka.
c Uutumbulilo wOmbiimbeli mboka wa tolokwa “oluhondelo” owa kwatela mo okuyona ondjokana, uushenge, okulala noshinamwenyo nosho wo omukalo kehe gwa nyata gwa kwatela mo okulongitha iilyo yoluvalo.
d Shika inashi kwatela mo oonkalo moka omusamane a hala lela okusila oshimpwiyu uukwanegumbo we, ihe ita vulu oku shi ninga molwoonkalo ndhoka itaa vulu okuninga sha nadho, ngaashi omukithi nenge epumbo lyiilonga.
ONGIINI OMAKOTAMPANGO NGAKA GOMBIIMBELI TAGA VULU OKU MU KWATHELA OPO ONDJOKANA YENI KAAYI TEKE?
Ondjokana oyo onzo yenyanyu noyomaudhigu.—Omayeletumbulo 5:18, 19; 1 Aakorinto 7:28.
Ngele pwa holoka okwaauvathana, naku kandulwe po nziya.—Aaefeso 4:26.
Ngele tamu kundathana, okupulakena okwa simana ku vule okupopya.—Jakob 1:19.
Aaihokani oye na okwiigwanithila po oompumbwe dhopamilalo mombepo yokwaaihola noyeyaalelo.—1 Aakorinto 7:3-5.
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