Jehovah “Heals the Brokenhearted”

1. How does Jehovah feel about his servants?

WHAT does Jehovah see when he looks at his servants on earth? He is aware of our joys and our sorrows. (Ps. 37:18) When he sees that we are serving him to the best of our ability despite coping with painful emotions, how pleased he is! More than that, he is eager to support and comfort us.

2. What does Jehovah do for the brokenhearted, and how can we benefit from his care?

² Psalm 147:3 says that Jehovah ‘binds up the wounds’ of the brokenhearted. Jehovah is here pictured as tenderly caring for those who have been injured emotionally. What must we do to benefit from Jehovah’s care? Consider an illustration. A skilled doctor can do much to help an injured person to heal. To benefit, though, the injured person must carefully follow the doctor’s instructions. In this article, we will see what Jehovah says in his Word to those who are suffering emotionally and we will consider how to apply his loving advice.

JEHOVAH ASSURES US OF OUR WORTH

3. Why do some feel that they have little worth?

³ We live in a world devoid of love, and sadly, many people have been made to feel that they have little worth. A sister named Helena says: “I grew up in a loveless family. My dad was violent and drummed into us daily how useless we were.” Perhaps, like Helen, you have been mistreated, frequently criticized, or made to feel unlovable. If so, you may find it difficult to believe that anyone genuinely cares about you.

4. According to Psalm 34:18, what assurance does Jehovah give us?

⁴ Even if others have mistreated you, you can be certain that Jehovah loves you and values you. He “is close to the brokenhearted.” (Read Psalm 34:18.) If you feel “crushed in spirit,” remember that Jehovah saw good things in your heart and personally drew you to him. (John 6:44) He is always ready to help you because you are precious to him.

5. What can we learn from the way Jesus treated those who were looked down on by others?

⁵ We can learn about Jehovah’s feelings by considering Jesus’ example. During his earthly ministry, Jesus took notice of those who were looked down on by others, and he treated them with compassion. (Matt. 9:9-12) When a woman hoping to be healed of a grievous sickness touched his garment, Jesus comforted her and commended her for her faith. (Mark 5:25-34) Jesus perfectly reflects his Father’s personality. (John 14:9) So you can be certain that Jehovah values you and takes note of your good qualities, including your faith and your love for him.

6. How can a person cope with feelings of low self-worth?

⁶ What can you do if doubts about your worth persist or reoccur? Read Bible verses that assure you of your value to Jehovah and meditate on them.b (Ps. 94:19) If you have failed to reach a goal or are discouraged because you cannot do as much as others, do not judge yourself harshly. Jehovah has reasonable expectations. (Ps. 103:13, 14) If you suffered abuse in the past, do not blame yourself for what the abuser did. You did not deserve such treatment! Remember that Jehovah holds the wrongdoers accountable, not the victims. (1 Pet. 3:12) Sandra, who was abused as a child, says, “I regularly ask Jehovah to help me see myself in a balanced way, the way he sees me.”

7. How can we put our past experiences in life to good use in Jehovah’s service?

⁷ Never doubt that Jehovah can use you to help others. He has given you the honor of being his fellow worker in the Christian ministry. (1 Cor. 3:9) Your life experiences have likely given you empathy for others and insight into how they may feel. You can do much to help them. Helen, quoted earlier, received help and is now better able to help others. She says: “Jehovah has turned this ‘nobody’ into someone who feels loved and useful.” Helen is happy to serve as a regular pioneer.

JEHOVAH WANTS US TO ACCEPT HIS FORGIVENESS

8. What assurance do we find at Isaiah 1:18?

⁸ Some of Jehovah’s servants are deeply troubled by regrets over their past actions, either before or even after baptism. But we do well to remember that Jehovah provided the ransom because of his deep love for us. Surely, he wants us to accept his gift. Jehovah assures us that after we have “set matters straight”c with him, he no longer holds our sins against us. (Read Isaiah 1:18.) How loving of Jehovah not to remember our past sins! At the same time, he never forgets the good we have done.​—Ps. 103:9, 12; Heb. 6:10.

9. Why should we do our best to focus on the present and the future rather than on the past?

⁹ If you are troubled by regrets about the past, do your best to focus on the present and on the future rather than on the past. Consider the example of the apostle Paul. He regretted that he had once viciously persecuted Christians, but he knew that Jehovah had forgiven him. (1 Tim. 1:12-15) Did he then continue to mull over the sins of his past? He no doubt refused to do so, just as he did not dwell on his former accomplishments as an adherent of Judaism. (Phil. 3:4-8, 13-15) Instead, Paul zealously cared for his ministry and looked ahead to the future. Like Paul, you cannot change the past. But you can honor Jehovah in your present circumstances and look ahead to the wonderful future that he has promised you.

10. What can we do if our past actions have hurt others?

¹⁰ You may be troubled by some of your past actions that have hurt others. What can help? Do what you can to repair the damage, including offering a sincere apology. (2 Cor. 7:11) Ask Jehovah to come to the aid of those affected by your actions. He can help you and those you have hurt to endure and to regain peace.

11. What can we learn from the example of the prophet Jonah? (See also picture.)

¹¹ Learn from past mistakes, and be willing to let Jehovah use you in whatever way he chooses. Note the example of the prophet Jonah. Instead of traveling to Nineveh as God had commanded, Jonah fled in the opposite direction. Jehovah disciplined Jonah, and he learned from his mistake. (Jonah 1:1-4, 15-17; 2:7-10) Jehovah did not give up on Jonah. God gave him another opportunity to go to Nineveh, and this time Jonah promptly obeyed. He did not let regret over his past mistake prevent him from accepting this assignment from Jehovah.​—Jonah 3:1-3.

JEHOVAH COMFORTS US THROUGH HOLY SPIRIT

12. How does Jehovah give us peace when we experience trauma or loss? (Philippians 4:6, 7)

¹² By means of his holy spirit, Jehovah comforts us when we suffer trauma or loss. Consider the experience of Ron and Carol. Tragically, their son took his own life. They say: “We had gone through difficult trials before, but this was by far the worst. We prayed during many sleepless nights, and we truly felt the peace described at Philippians 4:6, 7.” (Read.) If you are coping with a heartbreaking trial, you can pour out your heart to Jehovah in prayer as often and for as long as you want. (Ps. 86:3; 88:1) Ask Jehovah repeatedly for his holy spirit. He will never ignore your requests.​—Luke 11:9-13.

13. How can holy spirit help us to continue worshipping Jehovah faithfully? (Ephesians 3:16)

¹³ Has a distressing ordeal left you weak? Holy spirit can empower you to continue worshipping Jehovah faithfully. (Read Ephesians 3:16.) Consider the experience of a sister named Flora. She and her husband were serving together as missionaries when her husband became unfaithful to her, and they divorced. She says: “The anguish I felt because of his betrayal consumed me. I prayed to Jehovah for his holy spirit in order to persevere. Jehovah gave me what I needed to heal and to cope with something that in the beginning seemed insurmountable.” Flora feels that God has helped her to grow in confidence and that he will sustain her in all her trials. She adds: “The words of Psalm 119:32 applied to me: ‘I will eagerly pursue the way of your commandments because you make room for it in my heart.’”

14. How can we allow God’s spirit to operate on us?

¹⁴ How can you work in harmony with your requests for holy spirit? Share in activities that will allow God’s spirit to operate on you. These include attending meetings and witnessing to others. Fill your mind with Jehovah’s thoughts by reading his Word every day. (Phil. 4:8, 9) As you read, take note of Bible characters who experienced trials and meditate on how Jehovah helped them to endure. Sandra, quoted earlier, suffered a series of severe hardships. She says: “The account of Joseph really touches me. He did not let the trials and injustices he suffered weaken his relationship with Jehovah.”​—Gen. 39:21-23.

JEHOVAH COMFORTS US THROUGH FELLOW BELIEVERS

15. From whom can we receive comfort, and how can they help us? (See also picture.)

¹⁵ When we are suffering, our fellow believers can be “a source of great comfort.” (Col. 4:11) Our brothers and sisters are truly a living expression of Jehovah’s love for us. Fellow believers can comfort us by listening empathetically, or they may support us with their presence. They may share a reassuring Bible verse or say a prayer with us.d (Rom. 15:4) At times, a brother or a sister may remind us of Jehovah’s thinking and thus help us maintain our balance. Fellow Christians can also give us practical support, such as by providing a meal when we are in distress.

16. What may we need to do to receive support from others?

¹⁶ To receive support from others, we may need to ask for it. Our brothers and sisters love us and want to help. (Prov. 17:17) But they may not know how we feel or what we need. (Prov. 14:10) If you are hurting emotionally, be willing to share your feelings with mature friends. Let them know what would help you. You might choose to confide in one or two elders with whom you feel at ease. Some sisters have found it comforting to speak with another mature sister.

17. What are some challenges that could prevent us from receiving encouragement, and how can we overcome them?

¹⁷ Resist the urge to isolate yourself. Because of painful emotions, you may not feel like interacting with others. At times, your brothers and sisters may misunderstand you or fail to choose the right words. (Jas. 3:2) Do not let such challenges prevent you from receiving the encouragement you need. An elder named Gavin, who suffers from depression, says: “Keeping in touch with friends is often the last thing I feel like doing.” Nevertheless, Gavin does not give in to his feelings, and he benefits from his association with others. A sister named Amy says: “Because of my past experiences, I have difficulty trusting people. But I am learning to love and trust my brothers and sisters as Jehovah does. I know that this makes Jehovah happy, and it makes me happy too.”

TAKE COMFORT IN JEHOVAH’S PROMISES OF HEALING

18. What can we look forward to in the future, and what can we do now?

¹⁸ We can confidently look to the future, knowing that Jehovah will soon heal us completely of all physical and emotional pain. (Rev. 21:3, 4) At that time, the hurtful things we have experienced will not “come up into the heart.” (Isa. 65:17) As we have seen, Jehovah ‘binds up our wounds’ even now. Take full advantage of Jehovah’s loving provisions to bring you comfort and relief. Never doubt for a moment that “he cares for you.”​—1 Pet. 5:7.