Muzimvera Ena Chisoni
Vuto Lomwe Limakhalapo
Tikamaganizira kwambiri zimene anthu ena amasiyana ndi ifeyo, tikhoza kuyamba kuona kusiyana kumeneko ngati zolakwa za anthuwo. Zimenezitu zingachititse kuti anthu amene timasiyana nawo tiziwaona kuti ndi otsika. Ndiye tikangoyamba kuona ena moteremu, zimakhala zovuta kuti tiziwamvera chisoni. Kulephera kumvera ena chisoni ndi chizindikiro chakuti ndife atsankho, lomwe ndi vuto lalikulu kwambiri.
Mfundo ya M’Baibulo
“Sangalalani ndi anthu amene akusangalala. Lirani ndi anthu amene akulira.”—AROMA 12:15.
Kodi lembali likutiphunzitsa chiyani? Mfundo imeneyi tingainene mwachidule kuti muzimvera ena chisoni. Munthu amene amamvera ena chisoni amatha kudziyerekezera ali munthu winayo n’kumamva zimene mnzakeyo akumva.
Kodi Kumvera Ena Chisoni N’kothandiza Bwanji?
Tikamamvera chisoni munthu, timazindikira kuti palibe kusiyana pakati pa ifeyo ndi iyeyo. Timazindikiranso kuti nayenso amakhudzidwa ndi zinthu mofanana ndi mmene ifenso timakhudzidwira ndipo zimene angachite, ndi zimene ifenso tingachite. Kumvera ena chisoni kumatithandiza kudziwa kuti anthu onse, kaya moyo wawo ndi wotani, ndi ofanana. Tikamaganizira kwambiri mmene anthu ena alili ofanana ndi ifeyo, tidzasiya kuwaganizira zolakwika.
Kumvera ena chisoni kudzatithandizanso kuti tiziwalemekeza. Anne-Marie, yemwe amakhala ku Senegal, ankaona kuti anthu osauka ndi otsika. Iye anafotokoza kuti kumvera ena chisoni n’kumene kunamuthandiza. Anati: “Nditaona mmene anthu ochokera m’mabanja osauka amavutikira, ndinadzifunsa kuti ndikanakhala ineyo ndikanamva bwanji? Zimenezi zinandichititsa kuona kuti si ine wapamwamba kuposa anthu amenewo. Ndipotu palibe chilichonse chimene ndinachita kuti ndizikhala moyo wabwino kuposa iwowo.” Mfundo ndi yakuti, tikamayesetsa kumvetsa zimene wina akulimbana nazo, zimatithandiza kuti tizimumvera chisoni osati kumuimba mlandu.
Zimene Mungachite
Ngati mumaganiza zolakwika za anthu a mtundu winawake, tayesani kuona zimene mumafanana ndi anthu amenewo. Mwachitsanzo, taganizirani kuti amamva bwanji
Kumvera ena chisoni kumatithandiza kudziwa kuti anthu onse ndi ofanana
akamadya limodzi ndi banja lawo
akatopa ndi ntchito ya tsiku limenelo
akamacheza ndi anzawo
akamamvetsera nyimbo zimene amazikonda
Kenako yerekezerani muli inuyo. Dzifunseni kuti:
‘Kodi ndikanatani munthu wina akanandichititsa kudzimva kuti ndine wachabechabe?’
‘Kodi ndikanamva bwanji anthu ena akanati azindinena asanandidziwe n’komwe?’
‘Ndikanakhala kuti ndine wa mtundu umenewu, kodi ndikanakonda kuti anthu ena azichita nane zinthu motani?’