Kamap Olo Tugeta

1, 2. (a) Wanem nao samfela change wea happen taem man kamap olo? (b) Hao nao olketa man bifor, wea love-im God, they satisfy taem olketa kamap olo?

PLANTI samting change taem iumi kamap olo. Body bilong iumi no strong moa. Taem iumi luk long mirror, iumi lukim laen long face start for kamap and hair start for change color—and fall daon tu. Iumi maet hard for rememberim samting. Olketa niufela way for fren kamap taem olketa pikinini marit, and tu taem olketa granpikinini they born. For samfela, way for retire from work for shilling hem mekem them garem different living.

² Hem tru for say, olketa year wea man kamap olo they hard. (Ecclesiastes 12:1-8) But, tingim olketa servant bilong God wea stap bifor. Nomata go-go olketa dae, they kasem wisdom and way for meanim samting, wea mekem olketa satisfy taem they kamap olo. (Genesis 25:8; 35:29; Job 12:12; 42:17) Hao nao olketa win for hapi, taem olketa go-go for olo? Hem from olketa live followim olketa principle wea iumi faendem distaem insaed long Bible.—Psalm 119:105; 2 Timothy 3:16, 17.

3. Wanem kaonsel nao Paul givim for olketa man and woman wea olo?

³ Insaed leta bilong hem for Titus, aposol Paul givim gudfela advice long olketa wea go-go for olo. Hem raet: “Letem olketa olo man no ova tumas long way bilong olketa, garem fasin for ting hevi, garem stretfela tingting, strong long faith, long love, and long way for stand strong. Long sem way tu, letem olketa olo woman show aot fasin wea holy, no tok spoelem nem bilong pipol, and tu no drinkim tumas wine, kamap teacher long olketa gudfela samting.” (Titus 2:2, 3) Sapos iu followim olketa toktok hia, diswan bae helpem iu for face-im olketa challenge wea kasem olketa wea kamap olo.

ACCEPTIM HAO PIKININI BILONG IU BAE LUK AFTAREM HEMSELEVA

4, 5. Hao nao feeling bilong planti dadi and mami taem olketa pikinini bilong them lusim hom, and hao nao samfela they change fitim diswan?

⁴ Taem man garem different work, hem need for change fitim datwan. Diswan hem barava tru taem olketa full-grown pikinini they marit and lusim hom! For planti dadi and mami, diswan hem firstfela samting wea mekem olketa luksavvy hao they start for olo nao. Nomata olketa hapi from pikinini bilong them full-grown nao, planti taem olketa dadi and mami worry sapos they duim best bilong them for readyim olketa pikinini for luk aftarem themseleva. And maet they misstim way for garem olketa pikinini long haos tu.

⁵ Olketa dadi and mami worry abaotem living bilong olketa pikinini bilong them bihaen taem they lusim hom tu. “Sapos mi herem nius from them, for mekem mi sure they stap gud—datwan bae mekem mi hapi,” wanfela mami hem say. Wanfela dadi say: “Taem dota bilong mifela lusim hom, hem hard tumas. Hem leavim wanfela empty ples insaed famili bikos mifela duim evri samting tugeta.” Hao nao olketa dadi and mami olsem savvy deal withim way wea olketa pikinini lusim them? Planti taem, hem long way for helpem otherfela pipol.

6. Wanem nao bae help for keepim stretfela way for fren insaed long famili?

⁶ Taem olketa pikinini marit, work bilong dadi and mami hem change. Genesis 2:24 hem say: “Man bae lusim dadi and mami bilong hem and hem mas stap withim waef bilong hem and they mas kamap wan body.” Way for luksavvy long olketa principle bilong God abaotem hedship and for followim order, bae helpem dadi and mami for garem stretfela tingting abaotem evri samting.—1 Corinthians 11:3; 14:33, 40.

7. Wanem gudfela tingting nao wanfela dadi hem garem taem olketa dota bilong hem marit and lusim hom?

⁷ Bihaen tufela dota bilong wanfela hasband and waef they marit and muv go long different ples, hasband and waef hia feel olsem wanfela samting hem lus from laef bilong them. Firstaem, hasband hem no really acceptim olketa son-in-law bilong hem. But taem hem ting raonem principle bilong hedship, hem luksavvy hao olketa hasband bilong olketa dota bilong hem nao garem work for luk aftarem famili bilong themseleva. So, taem olketa dota bilong hem askim hem for advice, hem askim olketa abaotem wanem nao tingting bilong hasband bilong them, and then hem trae for supportim datwan. Distaem olketa son-in-law bilong hem ting long hem olsem wanfela fren and hapi for herem kaonsel bilong hem.

8, 9. Hao nao samfela dadi and mami change taem full-grown pikinini bilong them savvy luk aftarem olketa seleva?

⁸ Waswe sapos tufela wea just marit duim samting wea, nomata hem no againstim Bible, datwan hem no samting wea dadi and mami tingim hem best way? “Mifela evritaem helpem them for lukluk long tingting bilong Jehovah,” wanfela hasband and waef wea garem olketa pikinini wea marit they say, “but sapos mifela no agree withim wanfela samting wea they decide-im, mifela acceptim and supportim and encouragim olketa.”

⁹ Long samfela kantri long Asia, samfela mami faendem hem hard tumas for acceptim way wea son bilong them savvy luk aftarem hemseleva. But, sapos they respectim Kristian order and hedship, they luksavvy hao diswan mekem olketa problem withim dota-in-law bilong them no big tumas. Wanfela Kristian woman faendem hao taem olketa son lusim hom, diswan hem “samting wea givim hem feeling for thankiu wea kamap moa big.” Hem hapi tumas for lukim way wea they fit for luk aftarem niufela famili bilong them. Diswan mekem hevi wea hem and hasband kasem long saed bilong body and mind, taem they kamap olo, hem no big tumas.

STRONGIM MOA MARIT BILONG IU

10, 11. Wanem kaonsel from Scripture nao bae helpem pipol for misstim olketa trap wea kamap taem man start for olo?

¹⁰ Pipol deal withim way wea they start for olo long different way. Samfela man wearim kaleko long different way for trae for luk young moa. Planti woman worry taem olketa stop for kasem sik bilong woman. Sorry tumas, samfela wea kasem 40 year and ova they mekem olketa partner bilong them feel jealous taem they play raon withim narafela young girl or young boy. But olketa olo man wea love-im God they “tingting stret,” bossim olketa no gud samting wea body wantim. (1 Peter 4:7) Olketa mature woman tu duim samting for keepim marit bilong them strong, from love wea they garem for hasband and way wea olketa want for mekem Jehovah hapi.

¹¹ Under long spirit bilong God, King Lemuel raetem praise abaotem “gudfela waef” wea givim reward long hasband withim “gudfela samting, and no badfela samting, long full laef bilong hem.” Kristian hasband bae no fail for ting hae long way wea waef trae hard for deal withim eni hardfela samting long saed bilong feeling wea hem kasem taem hem start for olo. Love bae muvim hem for ‘praisim hem.’—Proverbs 31:10, 12, 28.

12. Hao nao hasband and waef savvy kamap moa klos long each other taem tufela start for olo?

¹² Long olketa year wea iu busy for luk aftarem olketa pikinini, iu tufela no ting tumas long samting wea iu tufela seleva wantim, but long samting wea olketa pikinini needim. Bihaen they go, hem taem nao for strongim moa marit bilong iu tufela. “Taem olketa dota bilong mi lusim hom,” wanfela hasband hem say, “mi startim moa way for fren withim waef bilong mi.” Narafela hasband say: “Mifela care for health bilong each other and talem long each other hao mi tufela needim exercise.” For no mekem tufela feel lonely, hem and waef bilong hem showim aot fasin for welkamim otherfela member bilong kongregeson. Yes, for interest long otherfela pipol hem bringim olketa blessing. And tu, hem mekem Jehovah hapi.—Philippians 2:4; Hebrews 13:2, 16.

13. Hao nao way for talemaot feeling and for honest hem helpem hasband and waef taem tufela kamap olo?

¹³ No letem way for no story tugeta kamap midlwan long iu and partner bilong iu. Free for toktok tugeta. (Proverbs 17:27) “Mifela mekem way for meanim each other kamap moa big taem mi tufela care and tingim each other,” wanfela hasband hem say. Waef bilong hem agree and say: “Taem mifela kamap olo, mifela enjoyim way for drink tea tugeta, story tugeta, and work tugeta.” Way wea iu talemaot feeling and iu honest savvy help for strongim marit bilong iu, so hem fit for winim olketa samting wea Satan, man for spoelem marit, iusim for spoelem marit bilong iu.

HAPI LONG OLKETA GRANPIKININI BILONG IU

14. Wanem part nao granmami bilong Timothy garem long way wea hem grow ap olsem wanfela Kristian?

¹⁴ Olketa granpikinini they “crown” bilong olketa olo. (Proverbs 17:6) Way for kampani withim olketa granpikinini hem samting wea savvy givim hapi—savvy mekem man feel gud and strong. Bible story long gudfela way abaotem Lois, wanfela granmami wea, withim dota bilong hem Eunice, share-im olketa samting wea hem believim withim small granpikinini bilong hem, Timothy. Taem disfela pikinini hem grow ap, hem savvy hao mami and granmami bilong hem ting hae long truth bilong Bible.—2 Timothy 1:5; 3:14, 15.

15. Long saed bilong olketa granpikinini, wanem gudfela samting nao olketa grani savvy duim, but wanem nao they mas stap klia long hem?

¹⁵ So, diswan hem spesel way wea grandadi and granmami savvy garem gudfela share. Olketa grandadi and granmami, iu share-im finis savvy bilong iu abaotem olketa purpose bilong Jehovah withim olketa pikinini bilong iu. Distaem iu savvy duim sem samting tu withim narafela genereson! Planti young pikinini hapi tumas for herem olketa grani talem them olketa Bible story. Hem tru, iu no tek ova long responsibility bilong dadi for teachim olketa Bible truth long olketa pikinini bilong hem. (Deuteronomy 6:7) But, iu helpem hem long diswan. Letem iu prea olsem man wea raetem psalm: “Go kasem taem mi olo and garem gray hair, O God, no lusim mi, go kasem taem wea mi savvy tok abaotem hand bilong iu long genereson, long evriwan wea bae kam, abaotem strong bilong iu.”—Psalm 71:18; 78:5, 6.

16. Hao nao olketa grani savvy stap klia long way for mekem no gud feeling kamap insaed long famili bilong them?

¹⁶ Sorry tumas, samfela grani they ova tumas for mekem olketa small wan hapi and diswan mekem no gud feeling kamap midlwan long olketa and full-grown pikinini bilong them. But, way wea iu showim aot trufela kaenfela fasin maet mekem hem easy for olketa granpikinini bilong iu for story withim iu taem they no want for talem samting long dadi and mami bilong them. Samfela taem olketa young wan hope for olketa grani bilong them for saed withim them for againstim dadi and mami bilong them. Sapos olsem, wanem nao bae iu duim? Showim aot wisdom and encouragim olketa granpikinini bilong iu for no hold back for story withim dadi and mami bilong them. Iu savvy meanim hao diswan hem mekem Jehovah hapi. (Ephesians 6:1-3) Sapos need hem stap, iu savvy askim granpikinini bilong iu sapos hem wantim iu for talem dadi and mami bilong hem firstaem abaotem problem bilong hem. Tok stret withim olketa granpikinini bilong iu abaotem samting wea iu learnim insaed olketa year wea go past. Way wea iu honest and tok stret savvy helpem olketa.

CHANGE FITIM WAY WEA IU KAMAP OLO

17. Wanem samting wea man for raetem psalm hem decide-im nao olketa Kristian wea go-go for olo mas followim?

¹⁷ Taem iu kamap moa olo, bae iu faendem hao iu kanduit for duim evri samting wea iu savvy duim bifor or wea iu want for duim. Hao nao man savvy acceptim and deal withim way for kamap olo? Long mind bilong iu, maet iu ting iu 30 year old, but taem iu luk insaed mirror iu lukim different samting. No feel weak daon. Man wea raetem psalm askim Jehovah olsem: “No raosem mi taem mi kamap olo; taem paoa bilong mi hem weak daon, no lusim mi.” Decide strong for followim samting wea man for raetem psalm hem decide-im. Hem say: “Mi bae go ahed for wait. And mi bae givim bigfela praise moa long iu.”—Psalm 71:9, 14.

18. Hao nao mature Kristian savvy iusim gud taem wea hem retire?

¹⁸ Planti prepare firstaem for mekem praise bilong them for Jehovah kamap moa big bihaen they retire from work. “Mi planim firstaem samting wea bae mi duim taem dota bilong mifela finis skul,” wanfela dadi wea retire distaem hem say. “Mi decide for start long full-taem preaching ministry, and mi sellim bisnis mekem mi free for servim Jehovah long bigfela way moa. Mi prea for God helpem mi.” Sapos iu klosap for retire, kasem comfort from disfela toktok bilong Nambawan Creator: “Taem man kamap olo mi nao sem Wan; and mi bae lukaotem man wea garem gray hair.”—Isaiah 46:4.

19. Wanem kaonsel nao stap for olketa wea go-go for olo?

¹⁹ For change-im living taem man retire from work for shilling maet hem no easy. Aposol Paul givim kaonsel long olketa olo man for “no ova tumas long way bilong olketa.” Diswan meanim man mas bossim seleva, no followim feeling for want for garem easy living. Maet bigfela need moa hem stap for garem schedule and way for disciplinim seleva taem iu retire winim bifor. So, go ahed for busy, “garem planti samting for duim insaed long work bilong Lord, from iufela savvy iufela no hard work nating insaed long Lord.” (1 Corinthians 15:58) Duim moa samting for helpem otherfela pipol. (2 Corinthians 6:13) Planti Kristian duim diswan taem they strong for preachim gud nius long way wea fitim them. Taem iu kamap olo, go ahed for “garem gudfela faith, long love, and way for stand strong.”—Titus 2:2.

DEAL WITHIM TAEM WEA PARTNER BILONG IU HEM DAE

20, 21. (a) Long disfela system, wanem nao savvy separate-im hasband and waef? (b) Hao nao Anna showim aot gudfela example for olketa wea partner bilong them dae?

²⁰ Samting wea mekem man sorry but hem trufela samting wea happen insaed long disfela system, hem way wea dae hem separate-im hasband and waef. Olketa Kristian wea partner bilong them dae they savvy olketa hia wea they love-im they sleep distaem, and olketa savvy they bae lukim them moa. (John 11:11, 25) But way for lusim samwan, hem samting wea mekem man sorry tumas. Hao nao dat wan wea laef savvy deal withim?a

²¹ For tingim samting wea samwan long Bible hem duim bae helpem iu. Anna hem kamap wanfela widow woman bihaen hem marit for sevenfela year nomoa, and hem 84 year old taem Bible story abaotem hem. Iumi sure hao hem feel sorry taem hem lusim hasband bilong hem. Hao nao hem deal withim datwan? Hem duim holy service for Jehovah God long temple long naet and day. (Luke 2:36-38) Laef bilong hem for duim service hem samting wea barava helpem hem for deal withim sorry and way for feel lonely taem hem kamap widow.

22. Hao nao samfela widow woman and widow man deal withim way for feel lonely?

²² “Barava bigfela challenge for mi hem for no garem partner for story withim,” hem nao samting wea wanfela 72-year-old woman talem taem hasband bilong hem dae tenfela year go finis. “Hasband bilong mi hem man wea savvy listen gud tumas. Mifela savvy story abaotem kongregeson and way wea mifela share insaed long Kristian ministry.” Narafela widow woman say: “Nomata taem hem help for aotem sorry, mi faendem hem moa stret for say samting wea man duim withim taem nao really helpem hem. Iu garem taem for really helpem otherfela pipol.” Wanfela 67-year-old widow man hem agree, and say: “Wanfela gudfela way for deal withim sorry hem for givim iuseleva for comfortim otherfela pipol.”

GOD TING HAE LONG OLKETA OLO

23, 24. Wanem bigfela comfort nao Bible givim for olketa wea olo, diswan hem moa tru for olketa wea lusim partner bilong them?

²³ Nomata dae hem tekem awe partner wea iu love-im, Jehovah hem stap faithful, and no lusim iu. “Wanfela samting nao mi askim from Jehovah,” King David hem sing olsem taem hem olo, “hem nao samting wea mi bae lukaotem, for mi stap insaed long haos bilong Jehovah for full laef bilong mi, for lukim olketa nicefela samting bilong Jehovah and for ting hae long temple bilong hem.”—Psalm 27:4.

²⁴ “Givim honor long olketa widow woman wea they barava widow,” aposol Paul hem say. (1 Timothy 5:3) Kaonsel wea hem givim bihaen disfela toktok showim aot olketa widow woman wea no garem eni klos relative maet garem need for kongregeson supportim olketa long material way. Nomata olsem, meaning bilong toktok for “givim honor” hem meanim tu for ting hae long olketa. Olketa widow woman and widow man wea love-im God kasem comfort taem olketa savvy Jehovah ting hae long olketa and bae luk aftarem olketa!—James 1:27.

25. Wanem goal nao still stap for olketa olo?

²⁵ “Samting for kasem praise bilong olketa olo man hem way wea olketa garem gray hair,” Word bilong God hem say. Hem crown wea luk “nice tumas long man wea garem raeteous fasin.” (Proverbs 16:31; 20:29) So, go ahed strong, nomata iu marit or single moa, for mekem service bilong Jehovah olsem first samting long laef bilong iu. Iu bae garem gud nem withim God distaem and hope for laef olawe insaed world wea pain wea olketa olo kasem bae finis.—Psalm 37:3-5; Isaiah 65:20.