Olketa Marit wea God and Olketa Man Respectim
“Wanfala marit feast kamap long Cana . . . Jesus and olketa disaepol bilong hem tu kasem invitation for go long datfala marit feast.”—JOHN 2:1, 2.
1. Datfala story abaotem Jesus long Cana hem showimaot wanem samting?
JESUS, mami bilong hem, and samfala disaepol bilong hem savve hao taem pipol bilong God marit long wei wea showimaot respect, hem mekem hapi kamap. Christ mekem wanfala marit long Cana hem nambawan taem hem duim firstfala mirakol bilong hem long there, wea mekem pipol barava enjoyim datfala marit. (John 2:1-11) Maet iu attendim and enjoyim olketa marit bilong olketa Christian wea laek for worshipim Jehovah tugeta olsem hasband and waef. Or maet iu luk forward for garem marit olsem or for helpem wanfala fren planim marit bilong hem. Wanem nao savve mekem datfala day gohed gud?
2. Wanem information nao stap insaed long Bible abaotem olketa marit?
2 Olketa Christian faendem hao advaes wea stap insaed Word bilong God hem barava helpem wanfala man and woman wea plan for marit. (2 Timothy 3:16, 17) Hem tru, Bible no talem evri arrangement for duim saed long wanfala Christian marit. Iumi no sapraes long diswan bikos olketa kastom and law hem difren long each ples and hem difren long taem bifor and distaem. Olsem example, long Israel bifor, olketa wea marit no duim wanfala marit ceremony. Day wea tufala marit, man hem tekem gele long haos bilong hem or haos bilong dadi bilong hem. (Genesis 24:67; Isaiah 61:10; Matthew 1:24) Wei for duim diswan hem showimaot long nara pipol hao tufala marit nao, nomata olketa no duim wanfala ceremony olsem plande pipol duim distaem.
3. Wanem samting nao Jesus attendim long Cana?
3 Olketa Israelite luksavve hao wei for duim diswan hem minim tufala marit nao. Bihaen datwan, maet olketa attendim wanfala marit feast olsem John 2:1 storyim. (Matthew 22:2-10; 25:10; Luke 14:8) Bible hem showimaot klia hao Jesus attendim wanfala marit feast bilong olketa Jew and hem duim samting for mekem pipol barava enjoyim datwan. Wanfala important point nao hem hao wanfala marit long taem bilong Jesus hem difren from olketa marit distaem.
4. Samfala Christian chus for garem wanem kaen marit, and why nao olsem?
4 Long plande kantri distaem, olketa Christian wea laek for marit mas duim samfala samting firstaem saed long law. Bihaen olketa duim datwan, olketa savve marit long eni wei wea fitim law. Maet datwan hem wanfala smol simpol ceremony front long wanfala minister bilong religion wea Gavman markem or wanfala magistrate. Samfala chus for marit olsem, and maet olketa askem samfala relative or Christian fren for kam olsem witness or for share long disfala hapi and important ceremony. (Jeremiah 33:11; John 3:29) Olsem tu, maet olketa nara Christian chus for no garem wanfala marit feast wea big lelebet wea man bae needim plande selen and taem for planim gud. Bat maet olketa chus for garem wanfala smol marit feast witim samfala fren. Nomata wanem iumiseleva laekem saed long diswan, iumi shud luksavve hao olketa nara mature Christian maet garem difren tingting abaotem diswan.—Romans 14:3, 4.
5. Why nao plande Christian laek for garem Bible tok taem olketa marit, and wanem samting nao datfala tok hem storyim?
5 Plande Christian wea bae marit chus for garem wanfala Bible tok long marit ceremony bilong olketa.a Olketa luksavve hao Jehovah nao startim marit and hem provaedem wisefala advaes insaed Word bilong hem for helpem marit for win and mekem tufala hapi. (Genesis 2:22-24; Mark 10:6-9; Ephesians 5:22-33) And plande Christian wea bae marit laekem olketa Christian fren and relative for share long disfala taem for hapi. Bat hao nao iumi mas ting long olketa difren kaen law, arrangement, and kastom long olketa difren ples? Disfala article bae storyim olketa difren wei wea pipol marit long olketa difren ples. Maet samfala barava difren from wanem iu savve or wanem iu duim long ples bilong iu. Nomata olsem, iu savve lukim samfala principle or point wea semsem long ples bilong iu wea important for olketa servant bilong God.
Marit wea Garem Respect Hem Followim Law
6, 7. Why nao iumi shud interest long olketa law saed long marit, and wanem nao iumi savve duim for showimaot diswan?
6 Nomata Jehovah nao startim marit, olketa gavman bilong man savve markem samfala samting wea olketa wea bae marit mas followim. Diswan hem stret. Jesus hem sei olsem: “Peim bak olketa samting bilong Caesar long Caesar, bat olketa samting bilong God long God.” (Mark 12:17) Aposol Paul tu talem olsem: “Evri soul shud stap anda long olketa gavman, from no eni gavman bae stap sapos God hem no letem; olketa wea garem paoa long distaem stap long position wea God letem olketa for stap long hem.”—Romans 13:1; Titus 3:1.
7 Long plande kantri, Caesar, wea hem nao olketa gavman, disaedem hu nao fit for marit. So taem tufala Christian disaed for marit and no eni reason from Bible stopem datwan, olketa followim olketa law long ples wea olketa stap. Maet diswan hem wei for registerim marit front long wanfala man wea Gavman markem. Taem Caesar Augustus givim komand for pipol mas ‘register long wanfala census,’ Mary and Joseph followim datfala komand and travel go long Bethlehem for duim datwan.—Luke 2:1-5.
8. Marit hem for hao long, and wanem nao Olketa Jehovah’s Witness no duim wea showimaot olketa luksavve long datwan?
8 Taem tufala Christian marit long wei wea fitim law and hem stret, long eye bilong God tufala marit for olowe nao. Dastawe Olketa Jehovah’s Witness no need for duim eni nara samting saed long law or talem moa marit promis bihaen olketa marit for 25 or 50 year finis. (Matthew 5:37) (Samfala church no acceptim wei for marit front long magistrate from olketa talem hao sapos wanfala priest or bigman long church no duim datfala marit, then datfala marit hem no stret.) Long plande kantri, gavman hem letem samfala minister bilong Olketa Jehovah’s Witness for duim olketa marit. Sapos olsem, olketa savve duim marit ceremony and marit tok long Kingdom Hall. Datwan hem ples bilong tru worship and ples wea fitim wanfala tok abaotem disfala arrangement wea Jehovah God nao startim.
9. (a) Sapos tufala Christian marit front long magistrate, wanem nao tufala maet chus for duim? (b) Hao nao maet olketa elder help saed long olketa marit plan?
9 Long olketa nara kantri, law hem sei olketa wea bae marit mas marit long wanfala office bilong gavman, or front long wanfala magistrate. Plande taem, olketa Christian wea marit olsem chus for garem wanfala marit tok bihaen datwan long Kingdom Hall long datfala sem day or long nextfala day. (Olketa bae no duim disfala Bible tok staka day bihaen olketa marit front long magistrate, bikos olketa marit finis front long God and olketa man, and Christian kongregeson tu.) Sapos tufala wea marit front long magistrate laek for garem tok long Kingdom Hall bihaen, olketa shud askem firstaem olketa elder long Kongregeson Service Komiti. Taem olketa elder luksavve olketa brata insaed kongregeson respectim tufala, olketa overseer bae mek sure datfala marit bae no affectim olketa meeting and nara arrangement long datfala Kingdom Hall. (1 Corinthians 14:33, 40) Olketa bae chekim tu plan bilong tufala for decoratem Kingdom Hall and disaed sapos olketa bae mekem wanfala announcement abaotem wei wea olketa bae iusim datfala hall.
10. Sapos tufala mas marit front long magistrate, hao nao diswan bae affectim marit tok?
10 Elder wea givim datfala marit tok bae duim best bilong hem for showimaot feeling, mekhae long spiritual samting, and showimaot respect insaed tok bilong hem. Sapos tufala marit front long magistrate firstaem, hem bae talem insaed tok hao tufala marit finis followim law bilong Caesar. Sapos tufala no talem marit promis long each other front long magistrate, olketa savve duim datwan bihaen datfala tok.b Sapos tufala talem promis long each other front long magistrate bat laek for talem moa promis bilong olketa front long Jehovah and long kongregeson, bae olketa talem long wei wea showimaot God “joinim [tufala] tugeta” finis.—Matthew 19:6; 22:21.
11. Long samfala ples, hao nao man and woman savve marit, and hao nao datwan affectim marit tok?
11 Long samfala ples, maet law sei tufala wea bae marit no need for garem eni marit ceremony, or for marit front long magistrate. Taem tufala tekem register pepa and saenem and givim long wanfala gavman office, tufala marit nao. Long semtaem, tufala kasem marit certificate. Taem tufala duim olsem, pipol ting long tufala olsem hasband and waef start long taem olketa kasem datfala certificate. Olsem iumi storyim bifor, tufala wea marit olsem maet laekem wanfala brata wea mature long spiritual wei for givim wanfala Bible tok stretawe bihaen diswan long Kingdom Hall. Hem bae talem evriwan wea attendim marit hao tufala marit finis taem tufala kasem marit certificate. Sapos tufala bae talem marit promis, olketa bae followim samting wea paragraf 10 and footnote storyim. Olketa wea kam long Kingdom Hall bae hapi witim tufala and kasem gud samting from kaonsel wea olketa herem from Word bilong God.—Song of Solomon 3:11.
Kastom Marit and Marit Front Long Magistrate
12. Wanem nao wanfala kastom marit, and wanem nao olketa wea marit olsem shud duim stretawe?
12 Long samfala kantri, olketa savve duim kastom marit. Diswan no minim tufala stap tugeta nomoa bat no marit, wea long samfala kantri pipol acceptim diswan nomata hem no stret saed long law.c Kastom marit wea iumi story abaotem hem marit wea fitim kastom bilong tribe or ples. Maet insaed diswan hem wei for peim bride-price wea showimaot tufala marit saed long law and Bible. Gavman ting long kaen kastom marit olsem hem stret saed long law and hem for olowe. Bihaen, olketa savve registerim datfala kastom marit, and taem olketa duim datwan maet olketa kasem certificate from gavman. Wei for register savve protectim hasband and waef, or waef sapos hasband hem dae, and tu, eni pikinini wea tufala garem. Kongregeson bae encouragem eniwan wea duim kastom marit olsem for mas registerim datwan stretawe. Hem interesting for lukim hao anda long Law bilong Moses, olketa registerim olketa marit and registerim pikinini taem hem born.—Matthew 1:1-16.
13. Bihaen long wanfala kastom marit, wanem nao hem fitim for duim saed long wanfala marit tok?
13 Tufala wea marit long kastom wei olsem kamap hasband and waef long taem bilong datfala marit. Olsem iumi storyim finis, olketa Christian wea marit olsem maet chus for garem wanfala marit tok and talem olketa marit promis long each other long Kingdom Hall. Sapos olketa duim datwan, speaker bae talem hao tufala marit finis followim olketa law bilong Caesar. Olketa bae garem wanfala tok nomoa. Hem wanfala marit, wea hem nao kastom marit, and wanfala Bible tok. Wei for duim tufala evriwan barava kwiktaem, maet long sem day, hem help for mekem pipol long community respectim Christian marit.
14. Wanem nao maet wanfala Christian duim sapos kastom marit and wei for marit front long magistrate hem stret?
14 Long samfala kantri wea hem stret saed long law for duim kastom marit, gavman mekem wei for pipol marit front long magistrate tu. Maet insaed diswan hem wei for talem marit promis and register. Samfala Christian wea bae marit laekem diswan winim wei for duim kastom marit. Olketa no need for duim kastom marit and for marit front long magistrate tu; tufala evriwan hem stret saed long law. Samting wea paragraf 9 and 10 talem abaotem marit tok and olketa marit promis hem fitim wei for marit front long magistrate tu. Main samting nao hem for tufala marit long wei wea God and olketa man respectim.—Luke 20:25; 1 Peter 2:13, 14.
Gohed Showimaot Respect Long Marit
15, 16. Hao nao evriwan shud showimaot respect long wanfala marit?
15 Taem problem kamap insaed marit bilong wanfala king bilong Persia, man for givim advaes long king, Memucan, talem samting wea savve mekem gud samting kamap—hem nao ‘for evri waef mas respectim hasband bilong olketa.’ (Esther 1:20) Insaed olketa Christian marit, datfala advaes no need for kam from eni king long earth; olketa waef laek for respectim hasband bilong olketa. Olsem tu, olketa Christian hasband showimaot respect long partner bilong olketa and praisem olketa. (Proverbs 31:11, 30; 1 Peter 3:7) Wei for showimaot respect insaed marit bilong iumi hem no samting wea iumi duim bihaen iumi marit for staka year finis. Hem mas start long taem iumi just marit.
16 Hem no datfala niu hasband and waef nomoa wea mas showimaot respect long day wea tufala marit. Sapos wanfala Christian elder bae givim marit tok, hem tu shud showimaot respect long wei wea hem givim datfala tok. Hem shud story nomoa long tufala wea bae marit. Long wei for showimaot respect long tufala, speaker bae no mekfani or talem olketa kastom story. Hem shud no talem olketa samting abaotem tufala wea maet mekem tufala and olketa narawan wea lisin for feel shame. Bat hem bae traem best bilong hem for showimaot feeling and buildimap tufala, and mekhae long Man wea startim marit and nambawan advaes bilong Hem. Tru nao, wei wea datfala elder showimaot respect insaed marit tok bae mekem datfala marit givim honor long Jehovah God.
17. Why nao olketa Christian marit mas stret saed long law?
17 Maet iu lukim finis hao disfala article hem storyim plande samting abaotem olketa law saed long marit. Maet samfala samting hem no fitim ples bilong iu. Nomata olsem, iumi evriwan shud luksavve hao hem important for olketa marit arrangement bilong Olketa Jehovah’s Witness showimaot respect for olketa law bilong kantri, wea hem nao olketa law bilong Caesar. (Luke 20:25) Paul encouragem iumi olsem: “Givim samting wea each wan fit for kasem, sapos man askem tax, givim hem tax; sapos man askem tribute tax, givim hem datkaen tax; . . . sapos man askem pipol for respectim hem, showimaot respect long hem.” (Romans 13:7) Tru nao, tufala Christian wea marit mas showimaot respect for datfala arrangement wea God markem distaem start long day wea tufala marit.
18. Sapos olketa Christian ting for garem marit feast, wanem nao olketa shud tingim, and wea nao iumi savve faendem information abaotem diswan?
18 Bihaen plande Christian marit, olketa savve hipap for wanfala marit feast. Remember hao Jesus hem chus for attendim wanfala marit feast. Sapos wanfala feast hem kamap, hao nao kaonsel from Bible savve helpem iumi for mek sure datwan bae showimaot respect for God and mekem pipol tinghae long datfala niu hasband and waef and long Christian kongregeson? Bae iumi story raonem datfala samting long nextfala article.d
[Footnotes]
a Olketa Jehovah’s Witness iusim wanfala tok aotlaen wea garem title, “Marit wea Showimaot Honor Front Long God,” for givim wanfala 30-minute marit tok. Diswan storyim nambawan advaes from Bible wea stap insaed datfala buk Secret for Kasem Hapi Famili and olketa nara pablikeson bilong Olketa Jehovah’s Witness. Disfala tok hem helpem olketa wea bae marit and evriwan wea kam long datfala marit.
b Sapos law no talem difren samting, tufala bae talem olketa promis hia wea showimaot respect for God. Promis bilong man: “Mi [nem bilong man] tekem iu [nem bilong gele] for kamap waef bilong mi, for lovem and keepim fitim law bilong God wea stap insaed long Holy Scripture for olketa Christian hasband, for full laef bilong iumi tufala long disfala earth for fitim marit arrangement bilong God.” Promis bilong gele: “Mi [nem bilong gele] tekem iu [nem bilong man] for kamap hasband bilong mi, for lovem and keepim and showimaot bigfala respect, for fitim law bilong God wea stap insaed long Holy Scripture for olketa Christian waef, for full laef bilong iumi tufala long disfala earth for fitim marit arrangement bilong God.”
c The Watchtower bilong May 1, 1962, page 287, story abaotem wei for stap tugeta bat no marit.
d Lukim tu datfala article “Increase the Joy and Dignity of Your Wedding Day” insaed The Watchtower bilong October 15, 2006, long page 28.
Waswe, Iu Remember?
• Why nao iumi shud interest long olketa law and olketa spiritual samting saed long marit?
• Sapos tufala Christian marit front long magistrate, wanem nao maet olketa disaed for duim stretawe bihaen datwan?
• Why nao olketa brata duim olketa marit tok long Kingdom Hall?
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Long wanfala Israelite marit bifor, man hem tekem gele long haos bilong hem or haos bilong dadi bilong hem
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Bihaen wanfala kastom marit, olketa Christian maet laek for garem wanfala tok long Kingdom Hall