thirumanam seiya ninaikkiravargalukku udhavi

1-2. dētting seidhapōdhu eppadi irundhadhu endru silar solgiraargal?

dētting seigira kaalam romba romba sandhōshamaaga irukkum. sollappōnaal, vaanatthil parakkira maadhiri irukkum. nīngalum dētting seidhukondu irukkirīrgalaa? appadiyendraal, indha samayatthil ellaamē nallapadiyaaga pōga vēndum endru ninaippīrgal. niraiya pērukku adhu nandraagavum pōyirukkiradhu. etthiyōppiyaavil irukkira siyaana endra sagōdhari ippadi solgiraar: “kalyaanatthukku munbu naanum ennudaiya kanavarum palagiyapōdhu romba sandhōshamaaga irundhōm. andha naatkalai ennaal marakkavē mudiyaadhu. naangal mukkiyamaana vishayangalai pēsinōm; niraiya sirikkavum seidhōm. enakku pidittha oruvarai... enmēl anbu vaitthirukkira oruvarai... kandupiditthadhai ninaitthu sandhōshappattēn.”

² adhēsamayatthil, nedharlaandhil irukkira alesō endra sagōdharar enna solgiraar endru paarungal: “naanum en manaiviyum dētting seidhapōdhu sandhōshamaaga irundhadhu unmaidhaan. aanaal adhil sila savaalgalum irundhana.” dētting seiyumpōdhu varugira prachinaigalai patriyum adhai samaalikka udhavum baibil niyamangalai patriyum indha katturaiyil paarppōm. dētting seigiravargalukku sabaiyil irukkiravargal eppadi udhavalaam endrum paarppōm.

dētting seivadhan nōkkam

3. dētting seivadhan nōkkam enna? (nīdhimoligal 20:25)

³ dētting seiyum andha kaalam romba sandhōshamaaga irundhaalum, adhu romba mukkiyamaana oru kaalam. ēnendraal, thirumanam sambandhappatta mudivugalai andha samayatthil nīngal eduppīrgal. kalyaana naal andru, indha būmiyil vaalgira kaalamellaam oruvarmēl oruvar anbu kaatta pōvadhaagavum, mariyaadhai kodukka pōvadhaagavum yegōvaavukku munnaal vaakku kodukka pōgirīrgal. podhuvaaga endhavoru vaakkurudhiyaiyum koduppadharku munbu naam romba gavanamaaga yōsitthu paarkka vēndum. (nīdhimoligal 20:25-ai vaasiyungal.) kalyaanatthinpōdhu kodukkira vaakkum appaditthaan. dētting seigira kaalatthil andha thambadhiyaal oruvarai oruvar nandraaga therindhukolla mudiyum; nalla mudivugalaiyum edukka mudiyum. andha samayatthil avargal oruvēlai kalyaanam panna mudivu seiyalaam. alladhu, pirindhupōgakkūda mudivu seiyalaam. oru paiyanum ponnum pirindhupōga mudivedutthaal avargal dētting seidhadhē vīn endrō avargal ēdhō thavaru seidhuvittaargal endrō arttham kidaiyaadhu. avargal palagi paartthadhaaldhaan oru nalla mudivukku vara mudindhadhu.

4. dētting seivadhai patri sariyaaga purindhukolvadhu ēn mukkiyam?

⁴ dēttingai patri sariyaaga purindhukolvadhu romba mukkiyam. kalyaanam aagaadhavargal idhai sariyaaga purindhukondaaldhaan, kalyaanam pannugira ennamē illaamal yaaraiyum dētting seiya maattaargal. kalyaanam aagaadhavargal mattumalla, naam ellaarumē idhai patri sariyaaga purindhukolla vēndum. ēnendraal, dētting seiyum irandu pēr kandippaaga kalyaanam panna vēndum endru silar ninaikkalaam. avargal appadi ninaippadhu, kalyaanamaagaadha sagōdhara sagōdharigalukku kashtamaaga irukkum. amerikkaavil irukkira kalyaanamaagaadha sagōdhari melisaa ippadi solgiraar: “oru sagōdhararum sagōdhariyum dētting seidhaal avargal kandippaaga kalyaanam panna vēndum endru silar edhirpaarkkiraargal. idhanaal, irandu pērukkum otthuppōgavillai endraalum piriya vēndaam endru avargal ninaikkalaam. vēru silar, ‘edharku vambu, dētting pakkamē pōga vēndaam!’ endru yōsikkiraargal. idhanaal thēvaiyillaadha kavalaidhaan micham!”

oruvarai oruvar nandraaga therindhukollungal

5-6. dētting seigira irandu pēr edhai patriyellaam therindhukolla vēndum? (1 pēdhuru 3:4)

⁵ dētting seidhukondirukkum nabarai kalyaanam pannalaamaa vēndaamaa endra mudivai eppadi edukkalaam? adharku, oruvarai patri oruvar nandraaga therindhukolvadhu udhavum. nīngal dētting seiya aarambippadharku munbē avarai patri sila vishayangalai therindhiruppīrgal. aanaal, ippōdhu “idhayatthil maraindhirukkira” gunangalai therindhukolla vaaippu kidaikkum. (1 pēdhuru 3:4-ai vaasiyungal.) avarukkum yegōvaavukkum eppadippatta bandham irukkiradhu... avarudaiya subaavam enna... avar eppadi yōsikkiraar... pōndravatraiyum therindhukollungal. konja kaalam pōna piragu, indha maadhiri kēlvigalaikkūda nīngal yōsitthu paarkkalaam: ‘ivar unmaiyilēyē enakku porutthamaana thunaiyaaga iruppaaraa?’ (nīdhi. 31:26, 27, 30; ebē. 5:33; 1 thī. 5:8) ‘naangal oruvarai oruvar anbaagavum akkaraiyaagavum gavanitthukkolvōmaa? engalukkul irukkira kuraigalaiyum thaandi engalaal sandhōshamaaga vaala mudiyumaa?’b (rō. 3:23) indha mukkiyamaana vishayatthaiyum marandhuvidaadhīrgal: nīngal irandu pērum porutthamaanavargalaa enbadhu, endhalavukku otthuppōgirīrgal enbadhai porutthu mattum illai; ungalukkul vitthiyaasangal irundhaalum endhalavukku valaindhu kodukkirīrgal enbadhai porutthum irukkiradhu.

⁶ dētting seigira samayatthil nīngal vēru edhai patriyellaam therindhukolla vēndum? ungal irandu pērukku naduvil kaadhal malarvadharku munbē mukkiyamaana vishayangalai patri therindhukollungal. udhaaranatthukku, irandu pērukkum enna kurikkōl irukkiradhu enbadhai patri nīngal therindhukollalaam. aanaal sila thanippatta vishayangalai patri, adhaavadhu aarōkkiyam, panam, vaalkkaiyil nadandha kasappaana sambavangal pōndravatrai patri enna sollalaam? indha maadhiri vishayangalaiyellaam aarambatthilēyē solla vēndiya avasiyam illai. (yōvaan 16:12-ai oppittu paarungal.) idhaiyellaam solvadharku ungalukku konjam kaalam thēvaippattaal, adhai avaridam sollungal. aanaal, ēdhō oru kattatthil idhai patri nīngal avaridam kandippaaga solla vēndum. appōdhudhaan avaraal oru nalla mudivai edukka mudiyum.

7. dētting seigiravargal eppadi oruvarai patri oruvar nandraaga therindhukollalaam? (“nīngal virumbugiravar romba dhūratthil vaalndhaal...” endra pettiyaiyum paarungal.) (padangalaiyum paarungal.)

⁷ oruvar unmaiyilēyē eppadippattavar enbadhai ungalaal eppadi therindhukolla mudiyum? manamvittu nērmaiyaaga pēsuvadhan mūlamaagavum, kēlvigalai kēttu nandraaga gavanippadhan mūlamaagavum therindhukolla mudiyum. (nīdhi. 20:5; yaak. 1:19) nandraaga pēsi palagugira maadhiri sūlnilaigalai uruvaakkungal. udhaaranatthukku, nīngal sērndhu saappidalaam, podhu idangalil vaakking pōgalaam, sērndhu ūliyam seiyalaam, kudumbatthil irukkiravargalōdum nanbargalōdum sērndhu nēram selavu seiyalaam. vitthiyaasamaana sūlnilaigalil vevvēru aatkalōdu avar eppadi palagugiraar enbadhai therindhukolla sila vaaippugalai ērpadutthungal. naam ērkenavē paarttha eshvinum idhaiyellaam seidhaar. alisiyaavōdu avar dētting panna samayatthil enna seidhaar endru solgiraar: “oruvarai patri oruvar nandraaga therindhukolla evaiyellaam udhavi seiyumō andha maadhiri vishayangalai plaan panninōm. adharkaaga, peridhaaga edhuvum seiyavillai. sērndhu samaitthōm, sērndhu vēlai seidhōm. ippadi seidhadhaal, engalidam irukkira balam-balavīnam pōndravatrai irandu pēraalum paarkka mudindhadhu.”

8. dētting seigira samayatthil sērndhu padippadhu eppadi prayōjanamaaga irukkum?

⁸ sērndhu baibil vishayangalai padippadhum ungalukku udhaviyaaga irukkum. kalyaanam aana piragu, nīngal sērndhu kudumba valipaadu seiya vēndum. appadi seiyumpōdhudhaan, kadavulum ungaludaiya kudumbatthil mukkiyamaana oruvaraaga iruppaar. (pra. 4:12) adhanaal ippōdhē, adhaavadhu dētting seidhukondirukkumpōdhē, sērndhu padippadharku nēram odhukkuvadhu nalladhu. andha sagōdharar, andha sagōdharikku innum kudumba thalaivaraaga aagavillaidhaan. ēnendraal, avargal innum kudumbamaagavē aagavillai. irundhaalum, sērndhu padikkumpōdhu yegōvaavōdu eppadippatta bandham irukkiradhu enbadhai irandu pērumē paarkka mudiyum. ippadi seivadhu romba prayōjanamaaga irundhadhaaga amerikkaavil irukkum mēks-laisaa thambadhi solgiraargal. mēks ippadi solgiraar: “naangal palaga aarambittha pudhidhilēyē dētting, thirumanam, kudumba vaalkkai patriyellaam niraiya paditthōm. ippadi seidhadhaal, sila mukkiyamaana vishayangalai patri engalaal pēsa mudindhadhu. oruvēlai, naangal padikkaamal irundhirundhaal, andha maadhiri vishayangalai pēsiyirukka vaaippillai.”

yōsitthu paarkka innum sila vishayangal

9. dētting seivadhai patri yaaridamellaam sollalaam endru eppadi mudivedukkalaam?

⁹ dētting seivadhai yaaridamellaam solla vēndum? adhai nīngal irandu pērumdhaan mudivu seiya vēndum. palaga aarambittha pudhidhilēyē niraiya pēridam sollaamal iruppadhu nalladhu. (nīdhi. 17:27) appōdhudhaan, niraiya pērukku badhil solla vēndiya sūlnilai varaadhu. adhēpōl, sīkkiramaaga oru mudivu edukka vēndum endra kattaayatthukkul thallappada maattīrgal. adhēsamayatthil, yaaridamum sollaamalum irundhuvidaadhīrgal. appadi irundhaal, yaar kannilum padakkūdaadhu endra bayatthil nīngal irandu pērum thaniyaaga irukka vaaippugalai thēda aarambitthuvidalaam. adhu romba aabatthaanadhu! adhanaal, yaar ungalukku nalla aalōsanai koduppaargalō, yaar ungalukku aadharavaaga iruppaargalō avargalidam idhai patri sollalaam. (nīdhi. 15:22) oruvēlai, kudumbatthil irukkiravargal, mudhirchiyulla nanbargal alladhu mūppargalidam idhai patri sollalaam.

10. dētting seiyumpōdhu thambadhigal eppadi yegōvaavukku pidittha maadhiri nadandhukollalaam? (nīdhimoligal 22:3)

¹⁰ dētting seigira samayatthil nīngal eppadi yegōvaavukku pidittha maadhiri nadandhukollalaam? nīngal palaga palaga oruvarōdu oruvar īrkkappaduvīrgal. idhu iyalbudhaan. aanaal, andha samayatthil nīngal eppadi olukka vishayatthil sutthamaaga irukkalaam? (1 ko. 6:18) aabaasamaana thappaana vishayangalai patri pēsaadhīrgal, irandu pērum thaniyaaga irukkaadhīrgal, adhigamaaga kudikkaadhīrgal. (ebē. 5:3) indha maadhiri vishayangal ellaam seks sambandhappatta aasaigalai adhigappadutthum, sariyaanadhaitthaan seiya vēndum endra thīrmaanatthai aattankaana vaitthuvidum. dētting seigira samayatthil, yegōvaavukku pidittha maadhiri eppadi nadandhukollalaam enbadhai patri adikkadi pēsungal. (nīdhimoligal 22:3-ai vaasiyungal.) etthiyōppiyaavil irukkum dhaavith-almaas thambadhi enna seidhaargal endru solgiraargal: “niraiya makkal irukkum idangalil naangal nēram selavu seivōm. illaiyendraal, engalōdu eppōdhumē nanbargal irukkira maadhiri paartthukkolvōm. kaarilō vīttilō naangal thaniyaaga irundhadhillai. ippadiyellaam seidhadhaal, thappu seiya thūndugira sūlnilaigalai thavirkka mudindhadhu.”

11. kaadhal unarvugalai velippadutthugira vishayatthil dētting seigira thambadhi edhaiyellaam nyaabagam vaitthukkolla vēndum?

¹¹ kaadhal unarvugalai velippadutthuvadharkaaga seigira sila vishayangalai patri enna sollalaam? ungal irandu pērukkum idaiyil anbu adhigam aaga aaga, adhai sariyaana vidhatthil nīngal velikkaattalaam. (un. 1:2; 2:6) aanaalum, seks sambandhappatta aasaigal adhigamaanaal ungalaal nidhaanamaaga yōsikka mudiyaadhu, nalla mudivugalaiyum edukka mudiyaadhu. kaadhalai velippadutthuvadharkaaga sila vishayangalai seiyumpōdhu, suyakkattuppaattai ilandhu yegōvaavukku pidikkaadhadhai seidhuvida vaaippirukkiradhu. (nīdhi. 6:27) adhanaal, palaga aarambikkumpōdhē, anbu kaattuvadharkaaga edhaiyellaam seiyalaam, edhaiyellaam seiya vēndaam endru mudivedungal. idhai patri pēsumpōdhu baibil niyamangalai manadhil vaitthukkollungal.c (1 the. 4:3-7) indha kēlvigalaikkūda nīngal yōsitthu paarkkalaam: ‘kaadhalai velippadutthuvadharkaaga seigira vishayangalai engal ūril irukkira makkal eppadi paarppaargal? indha maadhiri vishayangal seks sambandhappatta aasaigalai thūndumaa?’

12. prachinaigalum karutthu vērupaadugalum varumpōdhu edhai nyaabagam vaitthukkolla vēndum?

¹² prachinaigalō karutthu vērupaadugalō vandhaal enna seivadhu? ungalukkul avvappōdhu karutthu vērupaadugal varalaam. appadi vandhaal, ungal irandu pērukkum otthuppōgaadhu endrō nīngal pirindhuvida vēndum endrō artthamaa? podhuvaaga thambadhigalukku idaiyil prachinaigal varum, ellaa vishayatthilum avargal otthuppōvaargal endru solla mudiyaadhu. aanaal, vitthiyaasangalaiyum thaandi thambadhigal oruvarukku oruvar eppadi adjast seigiraargal enbadhai porutthudhaan kalyaana vaalkkai nandraaga irukkum. adhanaal, ippōdhu varugira prachinaigalai nīngal eppadi sariseigirīrgal enbadhai porutthudhaan ungal kalyaana vaalkkai eppadi irukkum endru theriyum. dētting seigiravargal indha kēlvigalai kēttukkollalaam: ‘prachinaigal varumpōdhu, engalaal nidhaanamaagavum mariyaadhaiyaagavum adhai pēsi thīrtthukkolla mudigiradhaa? kuraigalai engalaal sīkkiram otthukkolla mudigiradhaa? adhai sariseivadharku naangal ulaikkirōmaa? sīkkiramaaga vittukkodukkirōmaa, mannippu kētkirōmaa, mannikkirōmaa?’ (ebē. 4:31, 32) irundhaalum, otthuppōga mudiyaamal, eppōdhumē sandaiyaagavē pōikkondirundhaal enna seivadhu? ippōdhē otthuppōvadhu kashtamaaga irundhaal, kalyaanatthukku piragum otthuppōvadhu kashtamaaga irukkalaam. andha nabar ungalukku porutthamaanavaraaga irukka maattaar endru ungalukku thōndrinaal, pirindhupōvadhu ungal irandu pērukkumē nalladhaaga irukkalaam.d

13. evvalavu naal dētting seiya vēndum enbadhai eppadi mudivu seiyalaam?

¹³ evvalavu naalukku dētting seiya vēndum? avasarappattu mudivedutthaal, mōsamaana vilaivugal varum. (nīdhi. 21:5) adhanaal, oruvarai patri oruvar nandraaga therindhukollumvarai nīngal dētting seiya vēndum. adharkaaga, thēvaiyillaamal ilutthukkondē pōga kūdaadhu. ēnendraal, “edhirpaarppu niraivēruvadharku thaamadhamaanaal nenjam nondhupōgum” endru baibilum solgiradhu. (nīdhi. 13:12) adhumattumalla, nīngal palaga palaga seks sambandhappatta aasaigalai kattuppadutthuvadhum ungalukku kashtamaaga irukkalaam. (1 ko. 7:9) innum evvalavu naalukku dētting seiya vēndum endru yōsippadhaivida, ‘mudiveduppadharku andha nabarai patri innum enna therindhukolla vēndum?’ endru yōsippadhu nalladhu.

matravargal eppadi udhavalaam?

14. dētting seigiravargalukku matravargal eppadi udhavalaam? (padatthaiyum paarungal.)

¹⁴ dētting seigiravargalukku naam eppadi udhavalaam? avargalai saappaattukkō, kudumba valipaattukkō kūppidalaam. poludhupōkkukkaaga ēdhaavadhu plaan panniyirundhaal adharkukkūda avargalai kūppidalaam. (rō. 12:13) indha maadhiri sūlnilaigalil avargal oruvarai patri oruvar nandraaga therindhukolla mudiyum. dētting seigira irandu pērukku, kūda pōga yaaraavadhu thēvaippadugiraargalaa? kaaril avargalai kūttikkondu pōga vēndiyirukkiradhaa? thaniyaaga pēsuvadharku avargalukku oru idam thēvaippadugiradhaa? indha maadhiri sūlnilaigalilkūda naam avargalukku udhava mudiyum. (galaa. 6:10) munbu paarttha alisiyaavum eshvinum, dētting panna samayatthil niraiya pēr thangalukku udhaviyadhaaga solgiraargal. adhai patri alisiyaa solgiraar: “sagōdharargal engalukku udhavi seidhadhu nandraaga irundhadhu. ‘ungalukku thaniyaaga pēsuvadharku oru idam vēndumendraal engal vīttukku vaangal’ endru avargal solvaargal. avargal appadi sonnadhu sandhōshamaaga irundhadhu.” dētting seigira oru thambadhi ungalai thunaikku kūppittaal, adhai nanbargalukku udhavi seiya oru vaaippaaga paarungal. appadi pōgumpōdhu, thanippatta vishayangalai pēsuvadharku avargalukku nēramum oru nalla sūlalum thēvai enbadhai purindhukollungal. adhēsamayatthil, avargal thanimaiyil irukkira maadhiri vittuvidaadhīrgal.—pili. 2:4.

15. dētting seidhukondirukkiravargalukku vēru eppadiyum naam udhavalaam? (nīdhimoligal 12:18)

¹⁵ dētting seigiravargalidam enna solla vēndum, enna solla kūdaadhu enbadhilum naam gavanamaaga irukka vēndum. silasamayam, naam suyakkattuppaattai kaatta vēndiya avasiyam irukkum. (nīdhimoligal 12:18-ai vaasiyungal.) udhaaranatthukku, namakku therindha irandu pēr dētting seiya aarambitthirundhaal, adhai patri matravargalidam solla nam naakku thudikkalaam. aanaal, avargalē adhai solla vēndum endru aasaippadalaam. avargalai patri naam matravargalidam thēvaiyillaamal pēsuvadhaiyō avargaludaiya thanippatta vishayangalai kindal seivadhaiyō thavirkka vēndum. (nīdhi. 20:19; rō. 14:10; 1 the. 4:11) avargaludaiya kalyaanatthai patri ēdhaavadhu kēlvi kētkaamal iruppadhum karutthu sollaamal iruppadhum nalladhu. elīs endra sagōdhari thanakkum than kanavarukkum enna nadandhadhu endru solgiraar: “matravargal engalidam kalyaanatthai patri kētkumpōdhu engalukku dharmasangadamaaga irundhadhu. ēnendraal, adhuvaraikkum naangalē adhai patri endha plaanum pannavillai.”

16. palagikkondirukkum irandu pēr pirindhupōga mudivu seidhaal naam eppadi nadandhukolla vēndum?

¹⁶ dētting seidhukondirukkum irandu pēr pirindhupōga mudivedutthaal enna seivadhu? avargaludaiya thanippatta thīrmaanatthai patri naam kēlvi kēttukkondirukka kūdaadhu. yaar pakkam nyaayam irukkiradhu endrum yōsitthukkondirukka kūdaadhu. (1 pē. 4:15) lēyaa endra sagōdhari ippadi solgiraar: “naanum oru sagōdhararum pirindhapōdhu niraiya pēr avargalaagavē kadhaigalai kattinaargal. adhai kēttapōdhu en manasu udaindhupōnadhu.” naam ērkenavē paarttha maadhiri, dētting seigira irandu pēr pirindhupōga mudivedutthaal avargal ēdhō thavaraana mudivai edutthuvittaargal endru ninaitthuvida kūdaadhu. sollappōnaal, dētting seidhadhaaldhaan avargal irandu pērukkum edhu nalladhō andha mudivai avargalaal edukka mudindhadhu. pirindhupōgalaam endru avargal edutthirukkira mudivu, avargalukku kandippaaga valiyai kodukkum. konja naalukku avargal thanimaiyilkūda thavikkalaam. adhanaal, avargalukku eppadiyellaam udhavalaam endru naam yōsikkalaam.—nīdhi. 17:17.

17. dētting seigiravargal enna seiya vēndum?

¹⁷ naam ivvalavu nēram paarttha maadhiri, dētting seiyumpōdhu sila savaalgal varalaam. aanaal, adhu oru sandhōshamaana kaalamumkūda. adhai patri jesikkaa ippadi solgiraar: “unmai ennavendraal, andha samayatthil naangal niraiya muyarchi edukka vēndiyirundhadhu. aanaal, naangal selavu seidha sakthi, nēram konjamkūda vīnpōgavillai.” nīngalum dētting seidhukondirukkirīrgalaa? appadiyendraal, oruvarai patri oruvar nandraaga therindhukolla thodarndhu muyarchi edungal. appadi seiyumpōdhu, ungal irandu pērukkum prayōjanamaana oru mudivai ungalaal edukka mudiyum.