CHAPTER ELEVEN
Keepim Peace Insaed Famili Bilong Iu
1. Wanem nao samfela samting wea savvy mekem olketa famili divaed?
OLKETA wea insaed famili wea garem love, way for meanim each wan, and peace, they hapi. Hem gud tumas sapos famili bilong iu hem olsem. Sorry tumas, planti famili they no olsem and they divaed from samfela different samting. Wanem nao mekem olketa famili divaed? Bae iumi story abaotem threefela samting long disfela chapter. Insaed samfela famili, olketa member no garem sem religion. Long otherfela famili, olketa pikinini kam from different dadi or mami. And long samfela moa, way for work hard for garem inaf shilling or fasin for laekem moa material samting hem mekem olketa member bilong famili they divaed. But, samfela samting wea mekem wanfela famili divaed, narafela famili maet no worry long hem. Why nao olsem?
2. Wea nao samfela luk go long hem for guide-im them long famili laef, but wanem nao best samting for guide-im iumi?
2 Way wea narawan lukluk long diswan hem important. Sapos iu really trae for meanim lukluk bilong hem, diswan bae helpem iu for keepim wan mind bilong famili. Mek-tu samting hem from wea nao iu kasem samting for guide-im iu. Planti pipol followim advice bilong olketa workfren, neibor, niuspepa, or otherfela pipol. But, samfela faend aot wanem nao Word bilong God talem abaotem samting wea kasem them, and they followim samting wea they learnim. Hao nao way for duim diswan hem helpem famili for keepim peace?—2 Timothy 3:16, 17.
SAPOS HASBAND BILONG IU GAREM DIFFERENT RELIGION
Trae for meanim tingting bilong narawan
3. (a) Wanem nao kaonsel bilong Bible abaotem way for maritim samwan wea garem different religion? (b) Wanem nao samfela main principle wea fitim sapos wanfela partner hem believe and narawan hem no believe?
3 Bible givim strongfela kaonsel againstim way for maritim samwan wea garem different religion. (Deuteronomy 7:3, 4; 1 Corinthians 7:39) But, maet iu learnim truth from Bible bihaen iu marit, but no hasband bilong iu. Sapos olsem, wanem nao bae iu duim? Iu mas still keepim marit promis bilong iu. (1 Corinthians 7:10) Bible mek hae long way wea marit hem samting for olawe and hem encouragim olketa wea marit for stretem eni problem bilong them winim way for ranawe from problem. (Ephesians 5:28-31; Titus 2:4, 5) But, waswe sapos hasband bilong iu hem strong for againstim iu for followim religion bilong Bible? Maet hem trae for stopem iu for go long olketa meeting long kongregeson, or maet hem say hem no wantim waef bilong hem for go from haos tu haos, for story abaotem religion. Wanem nao bae iu duim?
4. Long wanem way nao waef savvy showim aot hem meanim feeling bilong hasband sapos hasband no garem sem religion olsem hem?
4 Askim iuseleva, ‘Why nao hasband bilong mi feel olsem?’ (Proverbs 16:20, 23) Sapos hem no really meanim samting wea iu duim, maet hem worry abaotem iu. Or maet hem kasem hevi from olketa relative bikos iu no share long samfela kastom wea important long them. “Taem mi stap seleva long haos, mi feel olsem evriwan lusim mi nao,” wanfela hasband hem say. Disfela man feel olsem religion hia tekem waef bilong hem from hem. But from hem praod, hem no talemaot hao hem feel lonely. Hasband bilong iu maet needim iu for talem hem hao way wea iu love-im Jehovah no meanim iu no love-im hem olsem bifor. Iu mas spendem taem withim hem.
5. Wanem way for balance nao waef wea hasband garem different religion mas garem?
5 But, for deal withim diswan long wisefela way, iu mas tingim wanfela samting wea moa important. Word bilong God encouragim olketa waef olsem: “Stap under long hasband bilong iufela, olsem hem fitim iufela for duim long Lord.” (Colossians 3:18) So, hem givim warning againstim way for garem independent tingting. And tu, taem disfela scripture say “olsem hem fitim iufela for duim long Lord,” hem show aot hao way for stap under long hasband mas fitim way for stap under long Lord tu. Diswan meanim way for balance.
6. Wanem nao olketa principle wea wanfela Kristian waef mas tingim olawe?
6 For wanfela Kristian, way for attendim olketa meeting bilong kongregeson and for witness long otherfela pipol abaotem faith wea kam from Bible, they important part bilong trufela worship wea hem mas no lusim. (Romans 10:9, 10, 14; Hebrews 10:24, 25) So, wanem nao bae iu duim sapos samwan hem talem iu stret for no followim wanfela samting wea God askim iu for duim? Olketa aposol bilong Jesus Kraest they say: “Mifela mas obeyim God olsem ruler, winim man.” (Acts 5:29) Disfela example hem fitim planti samting wea kamap long laef. Waswe, love bilong iu for Jehovah bae muvim iu for givim hem worship wea hem nomoa fit for kasem? Long semtaem, waswe, love and respect wea iu garem for hasband bilong iu bae mekem iu duim diswan long way wea hasband bae acceptim?—Matthew 4:10; 1 John 5:3.
7. Wanem way for believe strong nao wanfela Kristian waef mas garem?
7 Jesus say bae hem hard tumas for duim diswan samfela taem. Hem givim warning hao, way for againstim trufela worship bae mekem olketa wea believe insaed wanfela famili feel olsem they separate, olsem wanfela sword hem divaedem them from olketa insaed famili bilong them. (Matthew 10:34-36) Wanfela woman long Japan hem kasem diswan. Hasband bilong hem againstim hem for 11-fela year. Hem raf tumas long hem and planti taem lockim waef bilong hem aotsaed long haos. But woman hia stand strong. Olketa fren insaed long Kristian kongregeson helpem hem. Hem prea evritaem and kasem bigfela comfort from 1 Peter 2:20. Disfela Kristian woman hem barava believe hao sapos hem stand strong, wan day hasband bilong hem bae joinim hem for servim Jehovah. And datwan nao samting wea happen.
8, 9. Wanem nao olketa samting wea waef savvy duim mekem hasband no garem reason for complain?
8 Iu savvy duim planti gudfela samting for change-im tingting bilong partner bilong iu. For example, sapos hasband bilong iu no agree long religion bilong iu, no givim hem reason for complain long otherfela samting. Keepim haos klin. Keepim gud lukluk bilong iuseleva. Talem planti toktok bilong love and thankiu. No againstim hem but supportim hem. Showim aot hao iu luk long hem olsem hed. No change-im back samting sapos iu kasem no gud samting. (1 Peter 2:21, 23) Tingim hao iumi evriwan no perfect, and sapos wanfela raoa kamap, iu mas humble for say sorry firstaem.—Ephesians 4:26.
9 No letem way wea iu attendim olketa meeting hem mekem iu no readyim kaikai bilong hem long proper taem. Maet iu decide for share insaed Kristian ministry long olketa taem wea hasband bilong iu no stap long haos. Hem wise for Kristian waef for no preach long hasband bilong hem sapos hasband no laekem. But, hem mas followim disfela kaonsel bilong aposol Peter: “Iufela olketa waef, iufela mas stap under long olketa hasband bilong iufela, mekem sapos eniwan long them no obey long word, bae iufela savvy winim them, no long toktok, but thru long fasin bilong waef bilong them, from olketa lukim klinfela fasin bilong iufela withim way for barava show aot respect.” (1 Peter 3:1, 2) Olketa Kristian waef mas work hard for showim aot olketa fruit bilong spirit bilong God.—Galatians 5:22, 23.
TAEM WAEF GAREM DIFFERENT RELIGION
10. Hao nao hasband wea believe mas deal withim waef bilong hem sapos hem garem different religion?
10 Waswe sapos hasband nao hem wanfela Kristian but waef bilong hem no moa? Bible talem samting for duim long taem olsem. Hem say: “Sapos eni brata garem waef wea no believe, but waef bilong hem agree for stap withim hem, hem mas no lusim datfela woman.” (1 Corinthians 7:12) Hem kaonselem olketa hasband tu for: “Go ahed for love-im waef bilong iufela.”—Colossians 3:19.
11. Hao nao hasband savvy showim aot way for meanim samting and duim work bilong hed long gudfela way taem waef bilong hem garem different religion?
11 Sapos iu hasband bilong waef wea garem different religion, iu mas barava lukluk gud long way for showim aot respect for waef bilong iu and tingim olketa feeling bilong hem. From hem wanfela full-grown person, fitim hem for followim olketa samting wea religion bilong hem believim, nomata sapos iu no agree withim them. Long firstfela taem wea iu story withim hem abaotem faith bilong iu, no ting bae hem lusim olketa samting wea hem believim for longtaem finis and bae hem interest long niufela samting. Winim way for talem strong hao olketa samting wea religion bilong hem duim, wea hem and famili bilong hem ting hae long them for longtaem finis, they giaman, trae for reason withim hem from olketa Scripture long patient way. Maet hem feel olsem iu no tingim hem sapos iu spendem planti taem long olketa samting bilong kongregeson. Maet hem againstim way wea iu servim Jehovah, but really maet tingting bilong hem olsem: “Mi needim iu for spendem moa taem withim mi!” Iu mas patient. From loving way wea iu tingim hem, go-go, maet diswan helpem hem for acceptim trufela worship.—Colossians 3:12-14; 1 Peter 3:8, 9.
TRAINIM OLKETA PIKININI
12. Nomata sapos hasband and waef garem different religion, hao nao they mas followim olketa Bible principle for trainim olketa pikinini bilong them?
12 Insaed long famili wea no garem wan mind long religion, way for teachim olketa pikinini long saed bilong religion savvy mekem kwestin kamap. Hao nao olketa Bible principle fitim diswan? Bible hem givim main responsibility long dadi for teachim olketa pikinini, but mami tu garem important work long diswan. (Proverbs 1:8; lukim Genesis 18:19; Deuteronomy 11:18, 19.) Nomata sapos hem no acceptim way wea Kraest hem hed, dadi hem still hed bilong famili.
13, 14. Sapos hasband stopem waef bilong hem for tekem olketa pikinini long olketa Kristian meeting or for study withim them, wanem nao waef savvy duim?
13 Samfela dadi wea no believe they no againstim way wea mami hem teachim olketa pikinini long saed bilong religion. Otherfela they againstim diswan. Waswe sapos hasband bilong iu no letem iu for tekem olketa pikinini long olketa meeting bilong kongregeson or hem stopem iu tu for studyim Bible withim them long haos? Diswan meanim iu mas balance-im samfela obligation wea iu garem—obligation bilong iu for Jehovah God, for hasband bilong iu wea hem hed, and for olketa pikinini bilong iu wea iu love-im. Hao nao bae iu balance-im olketa samting hia?
14 Yes, bae iu prea abaotem diswan. (Philippians 4:6, 7; 1 John 5:14) But go-go, iu nao mas decide-im wanem for duim. Sapos iu showim aot way for tingim feeling bilong hasband, long way for mekem hem luksavvy hao iu no againstim hedship bilong hem, maet way wea hem againstim iu bae go daon. Nomata sapos hasband bilong iu stopem iu for tekem olketa pikinini go long olketa meeting or for duim Bible study withim them, iu savvy still teachim them. Long toktok bilong iu evriday and gudfela example bilong iu, trae for putim insaed long them love for Jehovah, faith long Word bilong hem, respect for dadi and mami—wea meanim dadi bilong them tu—way for care for otherfela pipol, and tingim way for work gud. Go-go, dadi maet lukim olketa gudfela samting wea kamaot from diswan and maet ting hae long hard work bilong iu.—Proverbs 23:24.
15. Wanem nao responsibility bilong wanfela dadi wea believe long way for trainim olketa pikinini?
15 Sapos iu wanfela hasband wea believe but waef bilong iu no moa, then iu nao garem responsibility for trainim olketa pikinini bilong iu long “discipline bilong Jehovah.” (Ephesians 6:4) And taem iu duim diswan, iu mas kaen, loving and iusim balance tingting taem iu deal withim waef bilong iu.
SAPOS IU GAREM DIFFERENT RELIGION FROM DADI AND MAMI
16, 17. Wanem nao olketa Bible principle wea olketa pikinini mas tingim sapos they acceptim wanfela religion wea different from dadi and mami bilong them?
16 Long distaem, samfela youngfela pikinini tu they acceptim different religion from dadi and mami bilong them. Waswe, iu wanfela wea duim datwan? Sapos olsem, Bible garem kaonsel for iu.
17 Word bilong God hem say: “Iufela mas obey long dadi and mami bilong iufela insaed long Lord, from hem nao raeteous fasin: ‘Honorim dadi and mami bilong iufela.’ ” (Ephesians 6:1, 2) Datwan meanim stretfela respect for dadi and mami. But, nomata way for obeyim dadi and mami hem important, pikinini mas tingim trufela God taem hem duim diswan. Taem wanfela pikinini hem kamap moa old and fit for decide-im samting, hem garem moa responsibility for givim ansa for olketa samting wea hem duim. Diswan hem no long law bilong gavman nomoa but hem moa tru for law bilong God. Bible hem say: “Each wan long iumi mas givim ansa for hemseleva long God.”—Romans 14:12.
18, 19. Sapos olketa pikinini garem different religion from dadi and mami bilong them, hao nao they savvy helpem dadi and mami for meanim gud religion bilong them?
18 Sapos olketa samting wea iu believim hem mekem iu change-im samfela samting insaed laef bilong iu, trae for meanim way wea dadi and mami ting long diswan. Bae they hapi sapos way wea iu learnim and followim olketa Bible teaching hem mekem iu showim aot moa respect, obey, and work hard long samting wea they askim iu for duim. But, sapos niu religion bilong iu mekem iu for rejectim tu belief and kastom wea olketa ting hae long them, maet they feel olsem iu rejectim way bilong laef wea they laek for givim long iu. Maet they worry long future bilong iu from samting wea iu duim hem samting wea planti pipol long ples bilong iu no laekem or hem tanem iu for no aftarem olketa samting wea they ting savvy helpem iu long material way. Maet praod fasin tu insaed diswan. Maet they ting, iu say iu nao stret and olketa nao rong.
19 So, kwiktaem arrange for dadi and mami bilong iu for meetim samfela elder or mature Witness from kongregeson. Encouragim dadi and mami bilong iu for visitim wanfela Kingdom Hall for herem seleva samting wea iumi story abaotem and for lukim seleva wanem kaen pipol nao Olketa Witness Bilong Jehovah. Go-go, maet tingting bilong dadi and mami bilong iu hem change. Nomata taem dadi and mami they strong for againstim pikinini, spoelem Bible literature, and stopem them for attendim olketa Kristian meeting, samfela otherfela chance stap for read long different ples, for story withim olketa Kristian brata and sista, and for witness and helpem otherfela long eniway taem. Iu savvy prea tu long Jehovah. Samfela young wan mas wait go kasem taem they big and lusim famili bifor they savvy duim moa samting. So, nomata wanem samting kamap, no forget for “honorim dadi and mami bilong iufela.” Duim share bilong iu for keepim peace long haos. (Romans 12:17, 18) Winim evri samting, keepim peace withim God.
CHALLENGE BILONG WAY FOR OLSEM STEPDADI OR STEPMAMI
20. Wanem feeling nao olketa pikinini maet garem sapos they garem stepdadi or stepmami?
20 Insaed planti famili, samting wea bringim bigfela challenge hem no long saed bilong religion but olketa problem bilong stepfamili. Insaed planti famili distaem they garem olketa pikinini from firstfela marit. Insaed famili olsem, olketa pikinini maet feel jealous and they no savvy hu nao for obeyim. From diswan, maet they againstim olketa gudfela samting wea stepdadi or stepmami trae for duim. Wanem nao savvy help for mekem wanfela stepfamili hem win?
Nomata iu really dadi or mami or iu stepdadi or stepmami, depend long Bible for leadim iu
21. Nomata they garem different kaen living, why nao stepdadi or stepmami mas luk for help long olketa principle insaed Bible?
21 Olketa hia mas luksavvy hao nomata they garem different kaen living, olketa Bible principle wea helpem otherfela famili hem fitim them tu. For no followim olketa principle hia maet kavarem problem for lelebet taem, but hem savvy lead go long sorry bihaen. (Psalm 127:1; Proverbs 29:15) Mekem grow wisdom and fasin for meanim samting—wisdom for followim olketa principle bilong God for kasem gudfela samting bihaen, and fasin for meanim samting wea mekem man luksavvy why olketa member bilong famili talem and duim samting. Iumi need tu for garem feeling for narawan.—Proverbs 16:21; 24:3; 1 Peter 3:8.
22. Why nao olketa pikinini maet faendem hem hard for acceptim wanfela stepdadi or stepmami?
22 Sapos iu wanfela stepdadi or stepmami, maet iu remember hao olsem wanfela fren bilong famili, olketa pikinini they welkamim iu evritaem. But taem iu kamap stepdadi or stepmami bilong them, tingting bilong them hem change. Taem they tingim hao really dadi or mami bilong them no stap moa withim them, olketa pikinini maet no savvy hu nao for loyal long hem, maet they feel olsem iu want for aotem love wea they garem for datfela dadi or mami. Samfela taem, they maet talem iu stret hao iu no dadi or mami bilong them. Olketa toktok olsem savvy mekem iu feel no gud. Nomata olsem, “no hariap for letem spirit bilong iu for feel kros.” (Ecclesiastes 7:9) Iu needim fasin for meanim samting and savvy long feeling bilong pikinini for deal withim olketa feeling bilong hem.
23. Hao nao man savvy deal withim way for givim discipline insaed long famili wea garem olketa steppikinini?
23 Olketa fasin hia they important tumas taem iu givim discipline. Hem important for evritaem givim discipline wea no change. (Proverbs 6:20; 13:1) And from olketa pikinini they no semsem, discipline wea wanfela kasem maet different from narawan. Samfela stepdadi or stepmami faendem hao long firstaem, maet hem moabeta for letem really dadi or mami for deal withim disfela work. But, hem important for tufela evriwan agree and supportim datfela discipline, no showim aot favor long pikinini bilong seleva winim steppikinini. (Proverbs 24:23) Fasin for obey hem important, but iu mas tingim tu way wea evriwan no perfect. No ova tumas. Givim discipline withim love.—Colossians 3:21.
24. Wanem nao savvy help for misstim olketa problem long saed bilong fasin wea no klin midlwan long olketa insaed long stepfamili?
24 Way for famili story tugeta savvy help long bigfela way for stopem trabel for kamap. Diswan savvy helpem famili for tingting long olketa barava important samting long laef. (Lukim Philippians 1:9-11.) Diswan savvy helpem each wan tu for lukim hao hem savvy share for kasem olketa goal bilong famili. And tu, way for tok stret tugeta olsem famili abaotem fasin wea no klin savvy help for stopem datkaen problem. Olketa girl need for savvy hao for wearim kaleko and showim aot stretfela fasin taem they stap withim stepdadi and eni stepbrata bilong them, and olketa boy needim kaonsel long way for showim aot stretfela fasin long stepmami and eni stepsista bilong them.—1 Thessalonians 4:3-8.
25. Wanem nao olketa fasin wea savvy help for keepim peace insaed long stepfamili?
25 For deal withim disfela spesel challenge bilong way for kamap stepdadi or stepmami, iu mas patient. Man needim taem for mekem grow niufela way for fren. For kasem love and respect bilong olketa pikinini wea no bilong iu hem bigfela work. But iu savvy duim diswan. Wisefela heart wea meanim samting, wea join withim strongfela feeling for mekem Jehovah hapi, hem nao key for kasem peace insaed long stepfamili. (Proverbs 16:20) Olketa fasin olsem savvy helpem iu tu for deal withim otherfela samting.
WASWE, MATERIAL SAMTING DIVAEDEM FAMILI BILONG IU?
26. Long wanem way nao olketa problem and way for tingim material samting savvy divaedem famili?
26 Olketa problem and way for tingim material samting savvy divaedem olketa famili long planti way. Sorry tumas, samfela famili they brek daon from way for raoa abaotem shilling and for want for kamap rich—or kasem lelebet moa shilling. Way for divaed savvy kamap taem hasband and waef they work for shilling and start for garem tingting, “shilling bilong mi, shilling bilong iu.” Nomata they no savvy raoa abaotem diswan, taem hasband and waef work for shilling, maet they garem wanfela busy schedule wea mekem tufela no garem inaf taem for each other. Wanfela samting wea kamap big long world hem for olketa dadi go stap long different ples from famili bilong them for longtaem—samfela month or year tu—for kasem moa shilling winim samting wea they savvy kasem long ples bilong them. Diswan savvy lead go for olketa bigfela problem.
27. Wanem nao samfela principle wea savvy helpem famili wea garem hevi long saed bilong shilling?
27 Iumi kanduit for putim olketa rul for olketa samting olsem, bikos olketa different famili need for deal withim different hevi and they garem different need. Nomata olsem, kaonsel bilong Bible savvy help. For example, Proverbs 13:10 showim aot hao man savvy misstim way for raoa taem olketa “story tugeta.” Diswan no meanim nomoa way for talemaot tingting bilong seleva but for askim advice tu and faend aot wanem nao tingting bilong narawan. And tu, for mekem wanfela gudfela budget savvy help for mekem famili garem wan mind. Samfela taem need maet kamap—maet for lelebet taem—for hasband and waef for work for shilling from they garem pikinini or otherfela pipol wea depend long them. Taem diswan happen, hasband savvy showim aot long waef hao hem still garem taem for hem. Hem and olketa pikinini savvy help long loving way withim samfela work wea waef seleva savvy duim bifor.—Philippians 2:1-4.
28. Sapos they tingim wanem samting nao bae famili savvy kasem help for wan mind?
28 But, mas tingim hao nomata iumi needim shilling long disfela system, hem no savvy givim hapi. Hem no savvy givim laef. (Ecclesiastes 7:12) Yes, way for ova tumas long olketa material samting savvy spoelem man long spiritual way and long saed bilong fasin. (1 Timothy 6:9-12) Hem moabeta for lukaotem Kingdom bilong God firstaem and raeteous fasin bilong hem, wea givim promis for kasem blessing from hem for olketa samting wea iumi needim long evriday living! (Matthew 6:25-33; Hebrews 13:5) Taem iu putim olketa spiritual samting firstaem and lukaotem peace withim God firstaem, maet bae iu lukim hao famili bilong iu, nomata hem divaed from samfela different samting, bae kamap famili wea barava garem wan mind long olketa moa important way.