Mbomunga Mwacizyiba Kubandika Abamwi

SENA cilamuubila-ubila lyoonse ikubandika abamwi? Kubantu banji, imuzeezo wini wakutalisya mubandi ikapati kumuntu ngobatazyi, ulabapa kulibilika. Ibantu bali boobu inga kabali ansoni. Inga kabalibuzya kuti: ‘Ino mmakani nzi ngondilaabandike? Ino inga ndatalika buti kukanana? Ino inga ndazumanana buti amubandi ooyu?’ Ibantu batalibiliki alimwi ibasamausya balakonzya kabaile kwaambaula balikke mumubandi oonse bamwi kabaswiilila buyo. Ipenzi ndyobakonzya kuba andilyo ndyakugwasya bamwi kuti kabalikwaya kwaambaula alimwi akutalika kuswiilila izyaambwa. Kunyina makani naa tuli akati kabaabo bali ansoni antela aabo ibasamausya, toonse buyo tuyandika kuzumanana ikujana luzibo lwambokubandikwa abamwi.

Amutalikile Aŋanda

Ikutegwa mucizyibe kubandika abamwi, ino mulekela nzi kutalikila nkukona kuŋanda yanu? Imibandi iiyumya-yumya ilakonzya kumugwasya kapati ikuba amukwasyi uukkomene.

Inzila iiyandika kapati mumibandi iili boobu nkubikkilana maano. (Dt. 6:6, 7; Tus. 4:1-4) Notubikkilana maano, tulaambauzyanya alimwi tulaswiilila umwi nayanda kwaamba cintu cimwi. Acimbi ciyandika kapati nkuba amakani amwi aagwasya. Ikuti katujisi bubambe bwalyoonse bwakubala Bbaibbele akwiiya, tunooli amakani manji kapati ngotukonzya kubandika. Ikuti katukabelesya kabotu kabbuku ka Kulingaula Magwalo Abuzuba kalakonzya kutugwasya kuba atwaambo ntotukonzya kubelesya kutalisya mubandi. Ambweni notwali mumulimo wamumuunda kuli cintu cimwi catukonda. Tulakonzya kubala makani amwi aagwasya naa aasesya. Atube acilengwa cakwaambila bamwi zintu eezyi notwiizya mumukwasyi. Alimwi eeci ciyootugwasya ikunoobandika abantu bambi ibatali bamumukwasyi wesu.

Kubandika Amuntu Ngomutazyi

Ibantu banji balayoowa kutalika mubandi amuntu ngobatazyi. Pele balo Bakamboni ba Jehova balasoleka kapati ikwiiya mbokubandikwa kutegwa bacikonzye ikubandika kasimpe kamu Bbaibbele abamwi. Balacita oobu akaambo kaluyando ndobajisi kuli Leza alimwi abasimukobonyina. Ncinzi cikonzya kumugwasya kuzwidilila mumakani aaya?

Injiisyo yaambwa kubbuku lya Ba-Filipi 2:4 ilayandika kapati. Tukulwaizyigwa kubikkila maano ‘ikutali kukuligwasya tobeni luzutu pe, pele akugwasya bamwi.’ Amuciyeeyele munzila eeyi: Ikuti kunyina nomwakaswaangene kale amuntu ooyo, inga umubona kuti muli basubo. Ino inga mwamugwasya buti ikutegwa aanguluke? Kumwetamweta akumwaanzya kulakonzya kugwasya. Pele nzinji ziyandika kubikkila maano.

Mulakonzya ambweni mwamunyonganya nzyaali kuyeeya. Ikuti kamuyanda kuti mubandike amuntu nzyomuyeeya nywebo kakunyina kubikkila maano kuli zyeezyo nzyaali kuyeeya, sena inga wamutambula kabotu? Ncinzi ncaakacita Jesu naakayaanya mwanakazi amugoti wamaanzi mumunzi wa Samariya? Ooyu mwanakazi wakali amuzeezo wakuteka maanzi. Jesu wakatalisya mubandi kumwanakazi ooyu amuzeezo nguwenya ooyo, mpoonya wakazumanana amubandi uukondelezya wamakani aakumuuya.—Joh. 4:7-26.

Ikuti kamubikkila maano kuzintu zicitika aawo mpomubede, andinywe mulakonzya kuzyiba zintu nzyobalangilwa kuti nzyobayeeya bantu. Sena muntu ooyo uboneka kukkomana naa kuusa? Sena mmucembele naa uboneka kufwuluka? Sena kuli citondezya kuti kuli bana aŋanda? Sena muntu ooyo ubonekaanga muvwubi naa mucete cakuti cilamuyumina akujana zintu ziyandika mubuumi? Sena zintu zibotezya ŋanda naa nzyasamide mbuli ninga, nkaya atulungu-lungu twamunsingo zitondezya kuti muntu ooyo mmukombi? Ikuti mubandi wanu kaubikkilizya zintu zili boobu, imuntu ooyo ulakonzya kumubona kuti mulamubikkila maano nkaambo mwaamba zintu nzyazyi kabotu awalo.

Ikuti mwiniŋanda katalibonyi, ambweni kamumvwide buyo jwi lizwa muŋanda pesi cijazyo kacijalidwe, ino eeco inga camuyeezya nzi? Cimwaambila kuti muntu ooyo ambweni kuli ncayoowa. Sena inga mwabelesya bukandu bwakwe kutalisya mubandi kamwiimvwi amulyango?

Mumasena amwi cilakonzyeka kutalisya mubandi amuntu kwiinda mukulipandulula nobeni—mbomwakakomena, ncomwaboolela aŋanda yakwe, ikaambo ncomumusyoma Leza, icakamupa kutalika kwiiya Bbaibbele ambolyamugwasya. (Inc. 26:4-23) Masimpe, mweelede kucenjela kapati nomucita boobo alimwi kamwiizyi kabotu mbaakani yanu. Eeci cilakonzya kumukulwaizya muntu ooyo kumwaambila cintu cimwi cijatikizya nguwe, mbwayeeya ambwazibona zintu.

Mumisyobo imwi, ikusamausya beenzu ncilengwa buya. Ibantu balakonzya kumutamba kuti mukakkalile muŋanda. Mwakkala buyo, ikuti mwamubuzya mwiniŋanda mbwapona amukwasyi alimwi akuswiilila kabotu-kabotu kubwiinguzi, awalo ulakonzya kuswiilila kuzintu nzyomuyanda kwaamba. Ibamwi bantu balababikkila kapati maano beenzu, aboobo ikwaanzyanya kulakonzya kutola ciindi cikubwene. Mukuya kwaciindi, balakonzya kujana kuti bajisi twaambo tweelene antomujisi. Eeci cilakonzya kumunjizya mumubandi wazintu zyakumuuya.

Ino mbuti kuti kakuli bantu banji mucilawo momukkala ibaambaula mwaambo umbi kuleka wanu? Mbuti mbomunga mwabagwasya bantu aaba? Ikuti naa mwaiya buyo mbobaanzyanya mumyaambo eeyo, ibantu aabo bayoobona kuti mulababikkila maano. Eeci cilakonzya kumupa coolwe cakuzumanana kubandika makani aambi.

Mbokuzumananwa Amubandi

Ikutegwa muzumanane amubandi, amuzibikkile maano nzyayeeya ngomubandika limwi. Amumukulwaizye kwaamba mbwalimvwa ikuti kalisungwide kucita boobo. Mibuzyo yalibambilwa kabotu-kabotu ilakonzya kumugwasya. Imibuzyo iigwasya kuzyiba mbwayeeya muntu ilayandika kapati mbwaanga ipa kuti muntu apandulule buya ikutali buyo kuvwiila mabbala lyomwe buyo lyakuti inzya naa peepe. Mucikozyanyo, mwamana kwaamba penzi lipenzya bantu ooko nkomukkala, mulakonzya kubuzya kuti: “Ino muyeeya kuti ncinzi cipa kuti kube bukkale buli boobu?” naa “Ino muyeeya kuti ncinzi cinga cagwasya kumanizya mapenzi aaya?”

Mwabuzya mubuzyo, amuswiililisye bwiinguzi bwakwe. Amutondezye kuti mulabikkila maano kwiinda mukuvwuwa ajwi libombede, kuzuminizya kwiinda mukugunya-gunya mutwe. Mutamunjili mukanwa pe. Kamulibambilide kuswiilila nzyayeeya, amuzibikkile maano zyaambwa. ‘Amube bantu balibambilide kuteelela, ibamuka kwaamba.’ (Jak. 1:19) Nomwiingula, amutondezye kuti mwali kuziswiilila ncobeni zyali kwaambwa.

Pele, amuyeeye kuti tabali boonse bantu ibayoovwiila mibuzyo yanu. Bamwi bantu balakonzya kuvwiila kwiinda mukukankama naa kumwetamweta. Ibamwi balakonzya kwaamba buyo kuti inzya naa peepe. Mutatyompwi pe. Amukkazyike moyo. Mutabasinikizyi kubandika zintu nzyobatayandi. Ikuti muntu kayandisya kuswiilila, amucibelesye coolwe eeco kubandika twaambo twamu Magwalo itukulwaizya. Mukuya kwaciindi, muntu ooyo ulakonzya kumubona kuba mulongwe wakwe. Mpoonya, ambweni lino unooli libambilide ikwaamba nzyayeeya cakulikwaya.

Nomubandika abantu, amulibambile kuyoopilukila. Ikuti muntu wabuzya mibuzyo iili mbwiibede, amwiingule imwi pele amusiye omwe naa yobilo ikutegwa mukaibandike mwaakupilukila. Amumwaambile kuti muyanda kuyoovwuntauzya mpoonya akuzikumwaambila nzyomutiikajane. Ikuti katabuzyi mibuzyo, mulakonzya kumanizya mubandi wanu kwiinda mukumubuzya mubuzyo ooyo ngomuyeeya kuti inga wamukonda. Amumwaambile kuti mubuzyo ooyo uyoobandikwa ciindi ciboola mwaakupilukila. Mulakonzya kujana twaambo tunji mubbuku lya Kukambitsirana za m’Malemba, mubroshuwa ya Ncinzi Leza Ncayanda Kulindiswe? amumamagazini aalino aa Ngazi Yamulindizi a Galamukani!

Nomuli Abasyominyoko

Nomuyaanya umwi wa Bakamboni ba Jehova kwaciindi cakusaanguna, sena mulalisungula ikuyanda kuti mumuzyibe? Antela inga mwiile kwiimvwi munsi lyakwe kamuumwine? Iluyando ndotujisi kubakwesu lweelede kutukulwaizya kuba aluyandisyo lwakuyanda kubazyiba. (Joh. 13:35) Ino inga mwatalika buti? Mulakonzya kumwaambila izina lyanu akumubuzya izina lyakwe muntu ooyo. Ikanji-kanji kumubuzya mbwaakaiya kasimpe kuyoomunjizya mumubandi uukondelezya alimwi kuyoomugwasya kuzyibana kabotu. Noliba leelyo nomutapasauli buya kukanana, iciyandika kapati nkusoleka kwanu nkaambo kuyoomutondezya kuti mulamubikkila maano.

Ncinzi cikonzya kumugwasya kuba amubandi uuli ampindu amuntu wamumbungano yanu? Amube aluyando lwini-lwini kumuntu ooyo akumukwasyi wakwe. Sena nomwamana muswaangano? Amwaambe twaambo ntomwajana kuti tulagwasya kapati. Eeci inga camugwasya kapati nyoonse nyobilo. Mulakonzya kuluula kaambo kamwi kakondelezya kuzwa mu Ngazi Yamulindizi naa Galamukani! yaino. Eeci taceelede kucitwa mbuli kuti mulisumpula buya naa kumusunka kuti mubone naa kuli ncazyi. Amucite oobo ikutegwa mumwaambile cimwi cintu icakamukonda kapati. Mulakonzya kubandika cibeela ncajisi umwi wanu mu Cikolo Camulimo Weendelezyegwa a Leza akugwasyanya kujatikizya mboceelede kuyookananwa. Alimwi aumwi ulakonzya kubandika zintu izyakamucitikila mumulimo wamumuunda.

Masimpe, ikubabikkila maano bantu kanji-kanji kusololela kumubandi ujatikizya bantu—izintu nzyobaamba akucita. Mukwaambaula kwesu zimwi ziindi inga twabikkilizya amakani aasesya. Sena nzyotuya kwaamba zinooyumya-yumya? Ikuti twabikkila maano kululayo lwamu Jwi lya Leza akukulwaizyigwa aluyando lwa Leza, nzyotwaamba zinooyumya-yumya.—Tus. 16:27, 28; Ef. 4:25, 29; 5:3, 4; Jak. 1:26.

Katutanaunka mumulimo wamumuunda, tulasaanguna kulibambila. Nkaambo nzi ncomutalibambili makani amwi aakondelezya kutegwa mukaambile beenzyinyoko? Nomubala alimwi akumvwa makani amwi aakondelezya, amuzyibe twaambo ntomuyanda kwaambila bamwi. Mukuya kwaciindi, muyoojana kuti muli amakani manji kapati ngomukonzya kusala. Ikucita boobo kuyoomugwasya ikuba atwaambo tunji kapati kunze lyakwiile kwaamba zintu nzyobazyi kale boonse. Ikapati mubandi wanu autondezye mbomuliyandisya Jwi lya Leza!—Int. 139:17.